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2d Bride
Champion October 2009

Anyone experienced a more awkward family wedding than this?

2d Bride, on July 9, 2014 at 2:48 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

So, if you think you have an awkward family situation around your wedding, consider my nephew's, which we're supposed to attend on August 8: * The bride's parents are devout Muslims who live in Malaysia. They will not recognize her as married unless they have a Muslim ceremony. * If the bride should...

So, if you think you have an awkward family situation around your wedding, consider my nephew's, which we're supposed to attend on August 8:

* The bride's parents are devout Muslims who live in Malaysia. They will not recognize her as married unless they have a Muslim ceremony.

* If the bride should convert to any religion other than Muslim, or get married without a Muslim ceremony, she could be prosecuted criminally if she ever returned to Malaysia.

* A Muslim ceremony is not possible without both parties being Muslim. Thus, my nephew has at least nominally converted to being Muslim.

* The groom's parents (my sister and her husband) are devout Catholics who live in Mexico. While my sister is pretty tolerant, her husband acts as though every religion other than Catholicism is an invention of Satan. He is totally appalled by his son's conversion and by the Muslim wedding.

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  • Mrs. Bauer-*$
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    Mrs. Bauer-*$ ·
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    DING DING DING!!! I do believe we have a winner right here!!! good luck.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    @Lizz: It's not really tagging as such, just a link to the person's profile. (It doesn't act like a Facebook tag in which the person gets notified.) There is a post at this link on how to make links:

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/making-links-and-bold-and-italic-text/6799beb35cbd369a.html

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  • Zzil
    Master October 2014
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    Gotcha. I was excited for a second lol!

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  • ItsGoodToBeKing
    Master February 2014
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    Iʻd strap a go-pro on my head and keep a handle of vodka under the table.

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  • DisneyNut
    Master October 2014
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    I'm going with King on this one. LOL

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  • MelissaC
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    @Lizz and ELFie, the case is still ongoing. It's truly bizarre. I know two sides to the story: what the media has said and what my MOH has said that my friend has said (I have told him not to discuss the case with me). I'm still debating on whether to invite him to just the ceremony or not because he is still one of my best friends, but I don't want anyone bothering him or being bothered by the fact that he is there. I already discussed it with him and he said that he would love to go to just the ceremony, but I have to get the okay from my FH and so far he has stayed silent on this. Google IHOP murder. Once again, I don't know what is true and what isn't, but the way they describe my friend is not the way I know him to be so it's hard imagining this for me.

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  • Pamela Anne
    Super July 2014
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    I would totally attend just to see how this goes.

    I'm Catholic and I'm having a Catholic wedding, but I don't believe other religions are "inventions of Satan". FH is Buddhist and I was actually raised both Catholic and Buddhist.

    Oddly enough, I'm not a devout enough Catholic to actually marry another Catholic...I've always known that I would prefer to marry a Buddhist or a Hindu man (of course, he would have to be open to marry a Catholic).

    But the only reason I've accepted marrying in my particular church is because they are open minded enough to give us a Catholic wedding WITHOUT converting (or even attempting) to convert FH to being Catholic. All they did was make him promise not to ever pressure me into leaving my own faith and that, should I leave the Catholic faith, it would be due to my own choices.

    But other than that, FH's family doesn't speak English and our entire wedding is in English...we offered to have it in both English and Mandarin, but his family decided they would be happy to hear/read the whole thing in English...which would just be gibberish to them, but okay...

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  • Finally mrs.jkr
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    Oh dear 2nd bride, that seems like a lot! Like Pamela I'm Catholic, and although I am religious enough to marry another Catholic Smiley winking, I don't think that other religions are the creations of Satan either!

    You should stroll in speaking very fast English with a huge bottle of booze and kiss your wife, and then leave lol

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    @Pamela Anne and future mrs.jkr: The ironic thing is that I'm Jewish, but I'm not putting up a stink about the wedding being Muslim. However, we've just had one more wrinkle. NotFroofy says that if the couple won't tell the bride's parents that we're married, she will. The idea that she should attend the wedding because she's family, but then pretend not to be family at the wedding, is not going down well (or at all) with her. Stay tuned for more developments!

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    Champion October 2009
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