Anyone else's FH not excited?

Sometimes men don't really get involved in any wedding duties, or they are very interested about planning it. My advice for you is if you really love him be patient, and maybe there's something going on in his life, try to talk to him in a nice way.

My fiance doesn't show any interest in the planning but he does refer to me as his bride. I just don't think guys are into the details like we are. When I punt blank asked he said this is my day to shine. Maybe he feels the same way.

He's just being a guy.... My fiancé acts the same way but I know he loves me.

I just try to talk more about the things I know he's excited for, like the food

Not all the planning items are of interest to him so I just try to focus on what he does care about!

But we're not even planning anything. There's zero wedding talk, like AT ALL. It's just on hold for what seems like forever. Which is fine, I'll wait till he's ready but at least make it seem like you WANT to marry me eventually.

@Nikki idk if he'd be willing to do that. I think he'd think I was crazy for even suggesting it.

He thinks that "actions speak louder than words" so it's hard for him to understand why I need to hear him say that he's excited and wants to marry me.

To him it should be a given because "everything I do is for you". He thinks that because his actions show that he always puts me first, that I shouldn't be asking for him to tell me how he feels about me. It just bothers me because sometimes it's nice to hear it too.

And as far as the wedding goes, he doesn't see why I'm upset because we already discussed that we'd plan the wedding when we're done getting the house together. Which is subjective. I could think we're done but he doesn't. It just seems like it's not a priority to him right now because we'll get to it eventually and he's already proven his commitment to me by proposing to begin with. Ugh. Idk.

My fiancé has no interest in planning either, or really any of the details, but he does tell me all the time "I'm going to marry you" so I know it's not a problem with our relationship, he's just not into the whole wedding thing.

My FH had no interest in helping plan the wedding. And I do mean none. He has always been excited about being married, just not in the wedding itself. He started getting frustrated with my excitement and wanting to talk about it. He finally asked me to not mention anything wedding related for one week. Just one week. Which I did and he relaxed. As things get closer he starts to show small signs of interest and has started participating more. Hopefully he will get more excited and involved as things move closer.

I literally barely even speak to my FH about the wedding. I mention big stuff, but other than that everything is on me. He doesn't even know how much i am paying for stuff. He just gives me money every week so we can save up. So don't worry, i know exactly how you feel!

So you got engaged, got a house together but have not set the wedding date yet. And he's not wanting to talk about setting the date?

I am just trying to better understand your situation.

My FH is just clueless about wedding. We agreed to get married on Memorial Day weekend this year, our fifth anniversary. But he finally proposed to me in April.

He was like "why, we have over a month to plan"

So maybe your FH doesn't understand how long it would take to plan?

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I think his mindset is that we'll get to it eventually. And I shouldn't be annoyed because if he didn't want to marry me he wouldn't have proposed.

I think it's ok to be upset. Can you at least set a general time frame like we did?

Like, "ok we will get to it and discuss this in six months or a year," whatever you are comfortable with.

@Nikki we've been together for 7 years now, so I think he doesn't really think it's a big deal cause he already acts like we're married.

I tried to bring it up once and he said that we'd start planning once all of the house stuff we had to do was taken care of. But that was it.

My FH shows no interest in wedding planning, but he knows I have planned many events since I was once an event coordinator so he says he knows I can handle it. He has very little input on things unless directly asked. We are suppose to meet with the caterer on the 1st and all he said was ok what time. Some guys just don't have much enthusiasm for this type of thing.

I asked fh at the start what he wanted to be involved in. I go from there. Once we settled on the date when it came time to decide on X I would pull him into the conversation. Other thing he couldn't care less about so I didn't push but kept him in the loop.

He is your typical man. Give him the date and time and he'll show up.

Is he not excited about the wedding or the marriage? There's a big difference. One is totally normal the other is pretty concerning.

@BeachBride just the wedding.

He's talked to me about having kids and we already own a house together and have a joint checking account. So every aspect of our lives pretty much is like we're married already.

@Marie... I just started planning and brought options to FH....he was kinda forced into it.

Also, get the book "Love Languages" and you two read it together. Take the tests to find out each of yours...it sounds like one of yours is verbal affirmation and he doesnt know how to fulfill that need. That could def lead to problems.

My FH has no interest in wedding planning at all. All he asks is that he pick out his attire. He would rather go to the court house and save the money to buy a house but because he loves me, we are planning and intimate wedding to compromise.