Anyone else legitimately not care what other people want at your wedding?

I don't know if it's because I just don't GAF, or if it's because I know that they all have terrible taste.

I'm open to suggestions and will think about almost everyone's input, briefly, but in the end, it's my wedding and I'm the one who's getting married.

Someone on here (WW) once compared my 'guest etiquette' to having guests in my home. I've never forgotten the post, as the two situations don't even compare. It's one thing to cater to your guests, it's another to be their servant.

I just don't bring up the wedding at all. I don't want anyone's opinions. Definitely agree with all ya'll.

My parents paid for my wedding. I gave in to both families on details (we spent lots of time making sure that our kosher, vegetarian and allergic guests could eat), but there were definitely some things that DH and I stood up for ourselves on. My in-laws wanted to invite 50 friends (including his dad's entire office), which would have put our guest list over the venue limit or restricted the friends and family we wanted there, and we told them no. My mom called me crying because she hates my half-sister and didn't want her there, and we told her no on that too, because I'm on good terms with my sister and wanted her there.

@Purple, where in Mexico are you getting married? We are getting married at Playacar Palace in the Riviera Maya. We have been told a few times that it's too expensive for people but it was this or elope, so we feel happy that we can invite ppl, even if they cant come.

@Liz Ann - We're going to be in Riviera Maya, too, at the Iberostar Paraiso Maya.

We were there in 2013 and loved it!

ETA: Have you chosen a photographer or DJ yet?

*raises hand*

I am a perfectionist, type A, and extremely organized. I have been thinking about my wedding since I was a little girl and have a set vision in my head. I do share ideas with my FH, mom and sister (MOH)... I occasionally ask opinions... but I do what I want lol. FH luckily could care less about wedding planning and is letting me take the reigns!

The way I see it, FH and I are paying, so we don't give a rat's A$$ what people think, you don't like it, don't come, less people we have to pay for, haha. Unless we are just jerks too

If you're a jerk, I'm a jerk. Lol I dnt care what anyone has to say. With the exception of my 7yo. Lol

Your wedding day is about you two and personally you shouldn't GAF about what others would want or do. Everyone has their own opinion and you will not make everyone happy. It is impossible! So you do you and those who show up will love it no matter what!

I have absolutely no problem with telling family no to their demands LOL Last weekend I was ganged up on by my mom, mom's cousin, and sister to add one extra person to my guest list! They were yelling and demanding and just plain mean! I held my ground and didn't give them an ounce of hope! Haha! I credit ww to a lot of my strength in that scenario! My mom said she would pay for her food. I went in to explain how it's more then just food! Favours, table settings, cake, etc. It boiled down to the fact that the guest they were trying to forcefully add was a drama queen notorious for ruining events and I don't want to let her use my wedding as her drama venue. Afteer about half an hour of yelling and screaming, they apologized and all was well! Felt like I won a battle! Phew! But yeah, no one (except fh) will tell me what I'm doing w my wedding!

I don't care at all. If I did:

1. Children would be on the guest list

2. I would not wear a white, cream or ivory dress nor a veil

3. The ceremony would be no more than 20 minutes

4. Every family member would be invited (2nd and 3rd cousins with a plus 1)

5. My cousin's boyfriend would be our soloist (I don't like his voice or his style of singing)

6. We would have a bridal party of 24 people

Nope, I listened to be polite, and did our own thing.

Yeah, I'm on the "my wedding - my choice" side. We were initially having a very small wedding, and when we starting having to deal with BS about it, we changed the whole thing and are now having a beach elopement for just us.

My wedding, my way. I'm open to thoughts and ideas, but I pretty much know what I want. I've spent my entire life watching stuff happen to other ppl and helping them out with what they want. I doubt anything else in my life will ever be about me again, so it's all my way!

I guess I'm a big jerk too. We've been pretty lucky though and have had only a few hassles to deal with, basically because I think FH and I have pretty much keep our wedding planning ideas to ourselves. I did concede on a few things, (like the church programs my mother wanted), but they were mostly things I DGAF about in the first place.

Basically when someone tries to give us an opinion we say "Great idea, are you paying for that?"

I think that sometimes you might feel obligated to cater to other's needs if they are helping, or are totally, paying for your wedding. I know I felt obligated to invite family friends when my dad was paying for the wedding... we compromised with letting him pay for the HM instead. LOL!

I haven't read all the comments, but my dad told me we were being selfish for having a wedding in Mexico and at one point, said he wasn't sure he would come.

So I was like, OH FUCKING WELL. Then don't.

He came. And he had a damn good time. Point for Jenn.

There are reasonable things you should do to ensure the comfort of your guests, but there is also the argument that you should have the wedding you want/can afford. In the case of my dad, he bitched, but 'no pay, no say', as the saying goes. If he wanted me to have a certain type of wedding where our entire (huge) family was in attendance, then he could pay for it.

My mother: "You need to walk down the aisle to Wagner's bridal chorus! You must have an ice sculpture! We must rent a limo!"

I have no problem saying no, no, no. So I'm right there with you.

Also you wouldn't believe how many people have told me my cake MUST be white. I want a pink cake, and I'm going to have it!

As long as everyone's on the same page, I think things end up going okay. Sounds like you are on the "my day, my way" page while I am more of a "two heads are better than one" type. Both produce great weddings and happy couples, so whatever works!

I think the real problem comes when parents think they are closer to their kids than they actually are. FH and I ask my parents and his mom for advice all the time, and tell them the details of our lives and decisions. They are always "in our business", but we love the closeness between us and we have really benefited - I've saved thousands living at home the past 2 years, let alone everything else they do for us. So it was no surprise that they offered money- and lots of advice and opinions- to the wedding planning. Sempre famiglia ;-)