Anyone else legitimately not care what other people want at your wedding?

Haha yes I was like that. It was my wedding! and I would be the only one living with regrets, not all these other people. I'm very happy I stood my ground when I did. I'm glad you admit it. I agree that most posters seem too afraid to sound like a bridezilla. but you can't please everyone and if you try, it will only mean an unhappy bride

The only time I considered caving on anything was because I wanted to make my FILs happy (I love my FILs so their opinion has always been important to me), but thankfully WW and FH talked me down from that lol. It wasn't even something they had specifically asked of me I had just assumed it would make them happy lol glad I snapped out of that one. Other than that nobody in my family or friends has even tried to convince me to do anything other than what I/my FH want, they've all been super supportive. I dunno what I'd do if they tried. I like to hope I'll stand my ground even though I'm usually a people pleaser to a fault- especially with everything I've learned on here about the dangers of trying to please everybody.

I agree. I get that there's a lot to do to cater to your guests, but I think it can easily get out of hand. There's never going to be a time where you'll please 100% of the guests 100% of the time without making yourself miserable. There are reasonable accommodations and then there are over-the-top wishes/demands. Some people just like to talk to hear themselves talk lol.

I must be a jerk too. I don't care one bit.

I get it...."you can wear a midknight blue, MoB dress" "you have to wear a wedding dress". Me: nope I love my dress, and its perfect for the type of event we are hosting. "You really should have a wedding cake that will feed everyone" Me: Nope, our venue provides sheetcake, so thats what your getting. "Your niece (two families) is going to be heartbroken she's not invited. Me: we only have enough seats in the room for the number of people on our current list, I just dont have room. "You need to have a?party for the rest of us not invited" Me: no, we have our reception planned and unfortunatelywe cant afford two...or three separate receptions to accomodate everyone. And on and on.........Im prolly a bitch too, but we have no choice. People act like money grows on trees and we should set up something extra for all of them. Nope.

I think you should clarify the subject..... I definitely stormed in here ready to give you a lecture about catering to your guest's wants and needs.

LOL Poor Snarky came in here and then didn't have anything to be mad about.

LOL let someone try to tell me what I should do. It is expensive and we are paying for it ourselves. I'll just laugh on their faces.

We are doing things much different than how our families normally plan weddings, mainly by having a small guest list and not inviting everyone, and also by not having a religious ceremony or a church wedding. We've gotten a little bit of push back on some of our decisions, but ultimately we want our wedding to reflect who we are as a couple. I will say that for the small group that we are inviting, I do genuinely care that they enjoy the event and have a good time. I feel like if you don't care about the people you are inviting, then you probably should just not invite them at all.

The day is more significant to the two of you than to anyone else. People that are close to you should remember that and be supportive.

Lmao- i pretty much DGAF what other people think- its my wedding- ill do what i want!

We haven't talked about our wedding plans to our family, we just keep telling them, we are just about all set for the wedding, lol this keeps it to Our Standards/Our Wedding, not theirs.

Ha! I'm so with you! I've waited 35 years, I'm doing what the hell I want! My only gripe right now is my dad wants to invite all his motorcycle buddies and I really don't want to. With spouses it would be about 12 extra people that I barely know. Our wedding is pretty intimate and I'd really rather they didn't come, but now that my mom just gave me money I feel like I have to. *sigh* I'm still undecided about this. I know he'll be disappointing if I say no, but honestly I want my dad to be there for me, not for he and his friends to talk motors.

We've come around to this.

It took taking a step back and shutting out all the yelling opinions from his side to realise we were about to make a HUGE planning mistake. Namely, what they'd convinced us we should do instead of what we wanted.

I'd rather lose £500 realising that now, than 13k realising it in hindsight.

It's local to them, the food is good/plenty, the chairs will be comfy and the booze will be flowing - they're hosted well, the least they can do is enjoy it and stop being so hung up on "how a wedding should be done"

My motto through this entire process has been "no pay, no say." It has caused some tension between my mother and myself, but I really do not care. It is our day, not hers!

ITA. I think it mostly has to do with if someone else is paying, then they feel they should have more input (like the bridal shower or rehearsal dinner, for example).

The only pushback I have encountered (so far), is having my wedding on a holiday weekend, and on a Sunday. My feeling is, if you don't like it, don't come. Simple. Saves me money. IDGAF.

I don't care about other people's opinions for much so far. I was sharing some things with FH's family because they were excited, not because I wanted opinions. Everyone but his aunt just took what I said and congratulated me, but she decided to pick at every detail. But she has had 3 weddings, and really, out of all people, I could not care less about her opinion.

Me too! I've changed things that fgmil (basically fmil) because they were good ideas. She's been helping me plan and plays devils advocate. But always lets me know that she doesn't care how we do it, she just wants to help me think. It's been awesome. If I say I don't like that she just flows on to the next subject! No one in our families have been difficult thank goodness

Nothing wrong with that. I am being considerate of my guests by making sure they are not uncomfortable, but I to pick all the details. I have no problem saying no.

I'm with you....My day. I am paying for it. You don't like it, don't come.

The only thing I caved in for was inviting FH's 5 younger cousins. Other than that IDGAF what anyone wants or doesn't want. Yes I want everyone to have a good time but this wedding isnt about anyone else but FH and I.