Anyone else having trouble with writing VOWS

FH and I are doing ours as well.

My problem is that I have so much to say that I dont know how to condense it.

I'd like to keep it around 1-2 min.

Were also attempting to do this as well. The hard part is that i don't want something to sound clique. I want it to be something so real and emotional.

Another problem that I'll run into it during the ceremony, FH is going to sing to me. Right after that we are exchanging vows... I'm wondering if I'll even be able to talk.

@ Claire - I know what you mean. Want them to sound original

We are writing our vows too, even though FH is dragging his feet on it. I wrote mine already, but have been tweaking them a bit here and there. I was afraid that I would get up there and be an emotional mess so I interjected some inside jokes and humor so that we could chuckle a little and hopefully be able to hold back the tears.

When me and FH met at an old job we use to write notes to eachother during the day when we couldnt see eachother...... and just the other day I found 1 that wasnt with the other notes so I read it........ And those will be my vows...... i was such a sweet and loving person 7yrs ago hahaha

What we decided to do was to write our own vows together, so we'd recite identical ones, but before that we will have personal messages for the other. The first message section is a general acknowledgement of what we value and love in the other, and in the vows we make our promises. This took some of the pressure off to make really perfect, sentimental vows that say everything in one. And since we are breaking the two sections up, it won't feel like its dragging on so much for our guests.

I have been thinking about my vows but have not yet put anything on paper. I plan on getting started on them tomorrow. I purchase this tool kit to help out. I am not sure yet whether it was worth the $17 or not. I can let you know. http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com/

I know how you feel! FH really wanted to write our own vows, and he doesn't feel strongly about much of the wedding planning so I wanted to do it his way, but I just don't want them to sound cheesy & ridiculous. At the same time, I don't want to seem like we're trying too hard to be funny, because a) I want to keep them short and b) my cousin and her husband did HILARIOUS vows at their wedding in July (they're performance artists), and there is no way we'd do well in comparison. :p



We're actually supposed to work on the vows this weekend. So far all we've decided is that they'll be basically serious, but at the end I'll be like, "Wait, what about obeying?" and FH will be all, "Uh..." and then I'll tell him he can either vow to obey or load the dishwasher, but he has to pick one. :p

My DH is basically a very quiet person. It's hard for him to be very talkative in public. Sounds really weird bacause he's a doctor and deals with the public all the time, huh? He's a very private person and I'm his opposite................ya know opposites attract ( or so they say). I want us to write our vows but he's resisting the idea. Keeps saying "let me think about it". We've got like 4 months to decide yea or nay and come up with something really special. I've considered doing a rose ceremony as our way of doing something special for each other. @ MEG : thanks for the website info. @ KimmiF : great idea!

We decided that we didnt want to write our own because I knew if I did i'd probably bawl through the whole thing. but did know we wanted to say the same thing to each other. His mom (our officiant) gave us a great binder she has on all different ceremony pieces and we picked our vows last night.