Anyone else having trouble picking 1st dance?

Oh and I've gone through the song list on here like 20 times, sorry forgot to mention that

You're not alone. FH and I are struggling with this because we have VERY different taste in music (and we are the same age, so that's not the issue). I just put it on the back burner because I have tons of time, but you're getting married next month. Does you or he like oldies or are you looking for something new? My fav oldie is "can't take my eyes off of you"

Yep. We want a "classic" song - something that has stood the test of time - but that isn't a "cliche wedding song" (like At Last...sorry brides using that, no offense. But my FMIL is pushing that song, so no.) We went with "The Way You Look Tonight" by Frank Sinatra, but I'm still not sold.

You are definitely not alone. Our wedding date is fast approaching 10/17/15. We are just scratching the surface with this, bringing it up just a couple of weeks ago. FH and I are 5 1/2 years apart, although we have similar taste in music. I find the songs on WW to be way far out there. NOT helpful at all. Many of the songs aren't even applicable to the situation. I've spent a lot of time on it and come away only more overwhelmed by it. We were considering Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol. It has meaning to me mostly, FH isn't really nostalgic, but it reminds me of us when we 1st starting seeing each other several years ago, when the song was released and on the radio a lot. FH agreed it is in the running as an option, but we are both afraid it might be a little hard to slow dance to. We are also considering U2's All I want is you. Which is slower, but I'm not crazy about some of the lyrics as a 1st dance song. We better get on this. What about choosing a classic? If we can't decide between the two I just mentioned we feel you can never go wrong with the classics. Try googling randomly instead of researching on here ... Sorry WW ... but the song lists are too overwhelming and many just do not apply.

We are right there with you, we still can't decide between sweet and romantic probably Thinking out loud or fun Can't take my eyes off of you. Who would have thought this would be one of the harder decisions? Not to mention by the time we get married it's December, wedding season is over and they'll have heard every song a million times this year.

@RhnCasi419 If you don't use chasing cars as your first dance there is an instrumental version that my BMs are walking down the aisle to if you would like to sneak it into your ceremony.

Ugh...this has been one of the most annoying decisions to make, and that really caught me by surprise. FH is 10 years older but I don't know if that is what's causing the issue with us. I think it's more because a lot of the songs that are meaningful to us are not really danceable (like some Dave Matthews songs, for instance). I also like a lot of older songs and was really set on one by Otis Redding ("That's How Strong My Love Is"), but FH Just couldn't get behind that idea. Then he wanted that song "Earned It" and I was like "Babe, I think everyone associates that song with the '50 Shades of gray' movie." Lol. Last night, after months of this, I think we came pretty close to finding a song. I suggested Heatwave "Always and Forever" because this was my parents' song when they started dating in the 70's. So far this is the one that FH has agreed to the most. Fingers crossed! What are the songs that your FH likes, if any? (ETA: spelling)

Yes! We shoot down each other's suggestion everytime time. We want something fun that shows our personality as couple, but at the same time I do want it to be about our love for each other. I was hoping to find a rock song that would be everything we want, but still appropriate. Not yet though, we'll just have to keep searching.

I love so many songs and it is so hard for me to choose. I really really really like Never Stop by Safety Suit but me and FH don't always have the same taste in music and he only likes country and wants it to be a country song. I love country also, but I love all genres and that song is so sweet

We struggled too. Ultimately, we picked two songs- one for our first dance and one for our last dance. We danced to my pick for our first dance- then after the reception and once everyone left inside to lite their sparklers, we had our D/j play my husband's pick. It was a sweet moment and we both got the song we wanted.

My wedding is in 3 weeks and we still haven't picked one. We have all the other songs picked but that one. It's very frustrating.

We had some trouble agreeing on this. We finally settled on Frank Sinatra "The Way You Look Tonight"

We had some trouble agreeing on this. We finally settled on Frank Sinatra "The Way You Look Tonight"

Thanks for the advice guys! I will try googling lists this weekend... Keep posting what you are doing, I might just "borrow" your idea

We struggled with this a lot. We ended up deciding on "Danny's Song" by Loggins and Messina, but our second choice, "Slide" by the Goo Goo Dolls, is on our must play list so we can grab another slow dance together.

We had one - and then decided to change it.

We were going to go with Marry Me by Train, just because I love that song. FH was never fully sold on it - but he went along with it. Then we were listening to it and actually tried to have a little dance to it and both were like 'nope'. It's got an odd rhythm that makes it really hard to dance too. I even looked up videos of first dances to that song on you tube and every single one of them looked like they were out of time with the music.

So then we did a mad scramble, googling first dance songs, but I didn't like a lot of them - and we don't really have 'a song' because our tastes in music are pretty different.

Then I said to FH that there was one song - but I was worried that it was over played, and over done, but that actually meant a lot to me. It's the song I was listening to when I wrote the final scene of my first published novel, and a song that perfectly captures the love story in that novel. So I played it for him, and he instantly was like 'yup, that's the one'. Ha. So now we're doing A thousand years' by Christina Perri, which is terribly over played, and for a lot of people reminds them of Twilight - but I've decided I don't care!

What was the first so g you ever slow danced to? That's how we chose ours. It's Better Together by Jack Johnson. We danced to it in our friend's garage while we were partying one night. It just stuck from there.

I feel you! I've already picked one, but FH and I talk about it wedding stuff every time we go to a wedding. We don't have "a song", and the closest ones we have to being "our song" are totally inappropriate! (mostly rap songs we both love hahah). We both wanted something short and upbeat so we don't look awkward on the dance floor, then I was watching The Voice last year and saw Luke Wade sing "That's How Strong My Love Is" by Otis Redding and I loooooved it! Short, upbeat, and I like the message

Ugh we are having such an issue with this too. Here are the songs that are in the running:

Mean to Me – Brett Eldridge

Give it All We Got Tonight – George Straight

It’s Your Love – Tim McGraw

Wanted – Hunter Hayes

Mine Would be You – Blake Shelton

We were considering that Ed Sheeran song too but we tried to dance too it and it's not like slow enough. The struggle is real!

We had a hard time picking ALL of our reception music. I don't have a romantic bone in my body so I didn't want a sappy song, whereas DH is extremely sentimental so he wanted a song with meaning. My choice was Wagon Wheel by OCMS - totally random song - but he wanted La Vie En Rose by Louis Armstrong because it's from Wall-E - one of his favorite movies and the first movie we watched together. He told the DJ that story and I totally got outvoted on our first dance.

@D+S... reconsider Mine Would Be You by Blake Shelton. I think if you listen to the lyrics it's more of a break up song.