Anyone else feel unappreciated as a bridesmaid?

I know we should have stop her there and said she wanted it to be a surprise. But hindsight is perfect.

In addition, I would email twice a month and ask if she needed help with anything.

BUT what makes me soo angry, and may a little jealous is that I am getting married too! And she is one of bridemaids. She has not asked once if I needed help. Or even made arrangements to go dress shopping with me. Which is fine! Except she is calling me a bad bridesmaid. LIKE REALLY - I want to scream I'm getting married too!

I HATE these bridezilla chicks who think that the world stops for them and their wedding. First of all as a bridesmaid or MOH you are not obligated to do anything but be her friend, show up and wear the dress. This obligation list of what you SHOULD do drives me crazy.

She's a very selfish person and you and her other bm's went above and beyond without any appreciation. I appreciate YOU for not killing her, coz I would have

I hope all brides remember that, yes you are getting married, no you are not allowed to become a total bitch to your wedding party!

I KNO! That what we said. Her response was I've been really laid back so much so that other people have told me to expect more from you girls. LIKE hello? Have you seen anything we have done.

It just bugs me so much that I want to scream at her, that I'm getting married too!!!

I have never been a bridesmaid before, but I always thought it would be fun. I guess it depends on who is the bride I'm only having my sister as the MOH and my FSIL as a BM and that's it. The only thing I have made either of them do is pick their own dress. I wanted to make sure they actually liked what they were wearing. My FSIL is doing my make-up. I never wear make-up and I know nothing about it, she actually went to school for it, (she's a skin therapist). Other then that, I don't think I have "demanded" anything from them. That sucks that she has to be that way. I think the worst thing that could happen is for a wedding to effect a friendship. Weddings are suppose to be a happy time, a celebration. It's not suppose to be the most stressful time in your life. You already have too much to worry about in life to let the "good times" stress you.

Who are these stupid people telling her to "expect" anything other than you being at the wedding and wearing the bm dress. She's needs to stop listening to them..lol.

Perhaps you should remind her that you, too, are getting married and have stresses of your own to contend with.

All you can do at this point is vent, as I doubt talking to her in this state will not accomplish much. But it might not hurt to remind her you also have a wedding to plan.

You know what? I think maybe she needs to be told again that you ladies don't think she appreciates all that you HAVE done for her. She also needs a good sharp reminder that you are there to stand up with her as a friend... not a personal servant!

Brides like that tick me off.

I have been a bridesmaid 3 x. One of the girls I was maid for is in my wedding and the only contribution she has made has been 'forbidding' me from wearing a certain type of jewelery (yes, WTF!!) and also whining about her weight when in earshot of my MOH who is 5 sizes bigger than her. I made her invitations with her, paid for hire cars, organised hens night, was there for multiple dress hunts, set up tables, etc etc etc.

A bit unfair hey! Oh well...

I think that you should tell her how you really feel but not argue or fight in the mist of it all.continue to plan for your wedding and if you all can't seem to work it out maybe neither you or her should be in each other wedding.that'll be the wise thing to do if it's not working out.

I agree with Sharon! That crap pisses me off. She's lucky to have you guys - cause I would have left her short a maid

I am really sorry to read this. Your bridezilla friend is being really crappy to you the other bridesmaids. I think she is so wrapped up in the idea that "she is the bride" that she is forgetting that you guys have lives outside of her little wedding world. I would polietly (as possible) point out the fact that you all have done many things to help out (name them if you have to), remind her that you are planning a wedding too, and tell her that you hope that she will keep in prospective that you are her friends (NOT SLAVES!!) Ugh! I would never "require" my BMs to do all of things that she is requiring of you.

I definitly feel you should remind her that you are also getting married. I hate tit-for-tat and Im sorry that you have to go through this. But You definitly need to set that young lady straight. I too am in a similar situation with my MOH who is also getting married. I know she wants to be there for me but she is also trying to plan,visualize her own wedding. So most of the time she is absent. In an ideal world we would each get married in our own year and not have to share the space with a close friend. But when it does happen that way you must stand up for yourself. You've done ALOT considering you're planning your own wedding and you need to remind her of that. YOU are NOT her slave. geeze, ungrateful.......*(&*$((&@(@(((((((((

Good Luck!