Anyone ditching the traditional sleeping arrangement?

I slept with my husband the night before the wedding and was with him until the morning when I got ready with my bridesmaids

My FH and I are also staying in a hotel Friday-Monday for our Saturday wedding. I am going to a salon for hair and make up and will meet him at the venue to get dressed separately. But honestly he is probably going to have to take my dress to the venue for me. We are getting married in Gatlinburg and will drive up there together so he will have the car the morning of. Lucky him! He gets to haul everything g to our venue!

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I swear, everything I have thought of you've done, Melle you're a kindred spirit

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LOL there are worse things!! Just make sure you give him a checklist so there isn't hell to pay for something missed!!

View Quoted Comment Luckily there won’t be a ton, but a list will be given for sure!

I don’t see anything wrong with this.


I watched a tv show once in which the couple even got ready together the morning of their wedding. Their take was “it’s a day all about us; why would we spend majority of the day apart”. That has always stuck with me over the years.

I was planning to sleep separately the night before, but since we had to postpone our wedding and are going on our honeymoon in advance, I thought it would be kind of mean for me to stay in a hotel alone one of two nights of our mini-moon! Honestly I'm really glad :-)

My FH and I are sleeping at home in our own bed together the night before our wedding, we will get up in the morning and have coffee and relax a little before we go to our reception venue to drop off our car and do a last minute check on everything before it starts. Then He'll go back home to get ready with his guys and I'll be going to my mom's to get ready with my girls. I wanted to be comfortable the night before and I don't do well sleeping in other beds and especially sleeping without him next to me.

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That is a really cool way to look at it thank you, Reena!

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That makes perfect sense

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I understand exactly how you feel! love the idea of taking time to relax together beforehand, too.

That sounds fine! I personally didn’t care if we spent the night together. I was thinking we’d stay in the hotel room together and then when we woke up he’d go to his best man’s room. So it’s not like we’d be spending any time together, and like him having seen me in pjs in the morning won’t detract from when he sees me all made up and in my dress later in the day. My husband was super traditional and wanted to sleep separately so we ended up staying apart, but if he hadn’t cared then I wouldn’t have either

We spent the night in the hotel room together. Then, I drove to the salon for hair and makeup with my mother in law and sister in law who were also staying at the hotel.

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Gotcha. I will have to talk to FH about it when he gets home from the truck (semi driver) Friday. I know he won't want to sleep apart, but he may not want to see me after my hair and makeup are done. We'll see thanks, Gen!

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Thanks, Hannah. It seems a lot of people have bucked this particular tradition my HMUA is coming to our hotel to do my hair and make up the morning of. I may go down to my MoH's room for her to do it so he can get his shower and relax with a cup of coffee before we have to head to the venue. I appreciate the input!!

We don't sleep well apart, so we won't be in separate beds beforehand. Our ceremony is in the evening too, so we'll spend the day together until it's time to get ready. If the weather is warm enough, we'll bring water guns too so I can be distracted and not stress all day

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OMG water guns sound like a lot of fun!!

Ours is an 11am ceremony, but I'm in the same boat as you with not sleeping well apart. Unfortunately, he's a semi driver, so he's gone Sunday night through Friday morning...I end up with his pillow where his chest should be, me laying on it and clutching it LOL

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That's a good time to start. I had these grand plans of evening/low light photos but didn't consider how that will make the day DRAG ON and how stressed/emotional I'll be. LOL. Ours doesn't start until 7 pm!

Oh man, that'd be rough! Funny how different it is not having someone warm to cuddle up to.

As of right now we will be sleeping together at home, then going our separate ways the next morning. I have a really hard time sleeping, especially when there are other people around, so I knew I wouldn’t do the traditional share the room with the bridesmaids deal that some people do. He said he may want to sleep elsewhere and keep it totally traditional, but he’s letting me have our bed at home and he’d go crash at his sister’s house or a friend’s house.

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I understand. Part of me wishes we had decided to do something local instead of the other side of the state, because I sleep best in our bed, too, but I'm not stressing that part too much