Any of you upgraded engagmemt ring and wedding bands before the church wedding?

My FH spent a lot of time and energy trying to find my e-ring. Personally, it holds a ton of sentimental value and I could never imagine upgrading. To me it sounds silly and somewhat materialistic. Especially, since an e-ring isnt even necessary.

@Melissa, just out of curiosity, what other reasons could someone have for upgrading that isn't, "I kind of would like a bigger diamond on my finger." I can understand "This isn't my style, and I would like something that more reflects it", but that's not necessarily an "upgrade."

FH bought my ring with intentions of upgrading the diamond to a bigger size/changing the setting to my liking. The ring he got me is not exactly what I would have picked out myself, but it is what he picked out special for me. I have considered maybe changing the setting, but I just don't want to. I am very sentimental and it has sentimental value to me personally since it is the ring that changed our lives forever. Since I didn't pick out the E ring, I am going to pick out the wedding band to be exactly what I want it to be. I know lots of people who change their ring or get a bigger diamond. I just hold sentimental value to this ring and can't imagine a different one. I am also the type of person who saves every single note and card him and my parent's have gotten me. I get attached to sentimental things easiy lol. I would have loved to pick out the exact ring I wanted, but this is the one he spent time and energy and lots of money picking just for me and that means the world.

I find it a bit off-putting that you are a Newlywed and already thinking of upgrading a ring that has so much meaning behind it.

If DH wants to upgrade your ring, let him do it on his own accord. Don't be the one to suggest it, that would be so demoralizing for him!

My dad upgraded my step-mom's ring for an anniversary a long time ago. Told her he was taking it for a cleaning and appraisal for insurance reasons and got her a bigger diamond instead. She had no idea it was coming so it was super special. He had the original stone custom made into a necklace with the stone from her grandmother's engagement ring. If you're going to upgrade your ring, THAT is what you wait for. Not being the dissatisfied wife nagging her new husband that his ring isn't good enough. Ugh.

Once you're married your incomes are usually combined. So when you say let "him" go get it upgraded you are still helping pay for it. It's no longer separate in most cases. You are buying your own upgrade whether he initiates the process or not. Same with if he put the engagement ring on a credit card. Your income is helping pay that card off. It's not always separate. I don't see why it matters who idea it is. Not all guys are going to be hurt over it.

I personally would not want a replacement ring ever . My ring is sentimental to me and I love it .

When my parents had their co-validation, it coincided with 10 years of marriage so my dad upgraded their rings. This I understand. However, their co-validation was them, the priest, our godparents and us.

What is co-validation?

It's a convalidation, not co-validation, and it's basically when a couple who was married outside of the church is married within a church. When you're married outside of the Catholic church, you are married, but it is not a marriage recognized within the church. To have a "valid Catholic marriage" you need to have a convalidation.

Erin, I believe (but am not positive) that it is Catholic. I had a Catholic friend get married at the courthouse and then had their Priest validate the marriage after.

And in regards to letting him initiate the upgrade, in my dad's case, they had both separate and joint accounts and assets. He owns several companies and properties. So no, my step-mom didn't pay for her own upgrade when my dad surprised her.