I am marrying a first generation Chinese man in October. I am not Chinese and have been depending on my fiance to guide me with the customes. Unfortunately, he wasn't taught (or didn't pay attention) to many of them. This is resulting in his parents getting upset because we aren't following tradition (even when we ask specifically for guidance, they don't tell us what etiquette we are breaking until well after the fact). I tried to find books to help, but there doesn't seem to be many out there. So I'm really hoping there are some brides familar with Chinese (specifically Cantonese) culture that will help. My questions are:
1. We are doing the tea ceremony, they told my fiance they plan on getting me jewelery, what is custome? I think gold (though I was going to wear my pearls, which I have everything for), does it really matter?
2. Should I get a traditional dress to wear at the tea ceremony (and at the Chinese banquet 3 weeks after)?
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