Any brides having issues with jealousy or envy? bridesmaids , moh's or relatives of yours of FH?

Yup

I have a friend that always calls herself my sister and yet she hasn't even said anything like congrats or I'm happy for you. In fact she hasn't even acknowledged the fact that I'm engaged.

Real friends can be "jealous" that they haven't found happiness yet and still be happy for you. So I would just ignore those people because if it were the other way around they would talk about their weddings and probably not even be bothered if you were annoyed.

One of my friends mom has talked negatively to my face about almost everything i tell her about my wedding. her daughter is also planning a wedding and everything i talk about she turns to her daughter and says we will not be doing that at your wedding. it irritates the crap out of me. but i have kept quiet. the last couple of remarks have almost made me cry but im trying to not let it get to me. Its my and FH's wedding, not hers.

Unfortunately yes.

My sister has been OBSESSED with getting engaged. She heard her boyfriend had asked her dad for her hand last year, but he still hasn't asked, so it's all she thinks about now and keeps getting so disappointed when every "big event" passes that he doesn't propose. So any time I try to talk about my wedding, she listens and then just says "Cool" and changes the subject and never gives any input or excitement, and a few times she just responds "I wish I was planning MY wedding" and as much as I feel bad for her I just want to say "Well you're not, so can you please try to act maybe a little excited for mine and help me out?"

Sure.

But sometimes people roll their eyes and walk away not because they're jealous, but because there's only so much they can stand to listen about weddings.

OH, I'm not alone!!) Amy, I feel your pain...as well as the rest of you. I quit saying anything and just give that "eat shit, I'm happy" grin.....

It's bound to happen, just let it roll>>>

Yes!!! There are a couple of people who I dont even want to talk about stuff with because they never have anything nice to say. It's just jealosy.

I knew I wasn't alone in this ! I just have to learn to let it go....and be happy .

You wanna know something crazy?? My FH's SISTER is jealous. It's clear as day and everyone is seeing it. She keeps telling me bad stories about FH to get me to leave him. She is constantly mad at him and she's upset because when he went home to visit (with out me) He spend too much time talking to me, texting me, and that he doesn't hang out with anyone enough. Ummmm he lives 17 hours away from them!! lol He's moving to my state it's only going to get worse. She's crazy. I don't know of anyone else being jealous but her..

I'm having to work around her (FSIL sister) imaginary wedding date. She's not engaged. She fights with her bf all the time. They live with his parents and she can't afford her rent 1/2 the time being split 4 ways but they're getting married? If I talk about my wedding she brings her dream wedding up and says things like "I hope your wedding doesn't mess with mine and I have money to be in both money is so tight.. mine will come first" Then don't beg to be in mine!

I feel your pain.. and strangely, comforted that there are so many others that do as well.

The F-inlaws seem to be overjoyed when he is around, but the second he leaves the room, the glares of discontent begin. They all feel (without any effort of trying to hide it) that I am stealing him away from them and can't possible compare to his first wife.. whom they still do a lot with, for, and generally support financially even though they have been divorced for some time. Plus, now that our wedding is in the picture, she (through the FMIL) is shocked she isn't invited to the wedding! Not to mention the added pressure from the dear FMIL that we simply should invite her cause she is, afterall, part of their family.

Sadly, I do get a sense of "ah-ha" every time she finds out about our wedding details, even with the FMIL wanting to downgrade our wedding to not hurt her feelings. HA!

Never falls... my BF was my MOH and now we are no longer friends! I didn't know it was a race to the alter??? On top of conning (yes I said it) her boyfriend into marriage before me and moving out-of-state (the ultimatum was to marry me or I'm not moving), she is planning to be pregnant (8-9 mths) the date/month of my wedding. And I'm a bridezilla because I raised the question of whether or not she should remain my MOH because of her planned pregnancy putting her at 8-9mths pregnant the month of my wedding?! Whose to say she wouldn't have another difficult pregnancy, be on bed rest, not able to travel, or go into labor the day of my wedding. I think she was trying to take my day and make it about her!! Well, I hope it all works out for her!!

It's so odd. Everytime something big happens in one of my friends/families lives I'm always the first to be there with a hug, smile, card, gift, or cheerful thought... You think they could return that favor?! Hecks NO! My mother only speaks negatively to me and my FH but on facebook brags on and on about my wedding... and how lovely it will be... and how proud she is... of course she's proud I'm paying for it all myself! My MOH is my cousin and best friend... she hates the idea of marriage and basically tells me I'm stupid everytime I stress or say anything... my ones bridesmaid just doesn't care... the other is a drama queen and breaking up with a new guy every other day and doesn't think it's fair that I of all people am getting married! The girl who was supposed to be my MOH backed out make me tell her ev... yay... of course now she makes me tell her every detail.. what is wrong with people?!

It's so silly, but yes I do. I have a friend who was engaged in June and said she wouldn't be planning her wedding any time soon, they wanted a long engagement. When I got engaged this month, her first comment was, "My wedding is in September". Not congratulations, it's about time, good for you. Nothing. The day we celebrated my engagement at my house with all my closest friends, she came in fighting with her FH because he was not ready to plan the wedding and she was forcing him to do it sooner than they expected - all because she wanted to "pick her date before I planned my wedding." Then for the whole evening, any time someone asked me a question on if I thought about the plans yet, she would chime in trying to stop the conversation or commenting how mad she was that hers was not planned yet. I'm not letting it get to me, I'm just enjoying the moment right now.

Yeah I've had this issue as well with my best friend...when I first hinted to her that I was getting engaged she didn't really seem that excited and even when I told her that I was I just got a quick hug and congrats and she went on about her business...I do understand why she is a bit jealous and it mainly has to do with her BF of 6 years who hasn't proposed yet and doesn't look to be proposing anytime soon....she's getting a little bit better though but it is crazy how people can't just be happy for anyone anymore....I'm not even the type to talk about my wedding all the time I only talk about it when someone specifically asks "how is the wedding planning?" other than that I barely talk about it

My boss! She has been with her boyfriend for 7 years and no ring. She is sooo incredibily jealous that I'm 5 years younger and getting married before her. I have to lie when I request days off and say I have doctors appts. or something just so I can go to premarital counseling! The day I got engaged she started posting on facebook about how stupid wedding are, etc. etc.

Kristen..that's sad...but I do understand. I would do the same thing.. it's really none of her business. You have us to vent to..xo

You shud not invite anyone who is giving you a negative vibe about ur wedding and.plans you have for the future if they don't.like What you are planning then they should NOT be invited you dont need to see people rolling their eyes or giving you attitude on your wedding day just because they dont like How u planned your wedding. Thank God I don't have any issues with that even though I know some people talk behind my back because we are having a 6 month engagement and How could it be possible to plan a wedding in such a short time.

I had a friend kind of like that. We were friends for years. For a bit of a background... I've been planning my wedding since I was about 8. I always dreamed of fall wedding while I wore a gorgeous mermaid gown with small but elegant beading, with a bouquet of red roses and baby's breath, with matching red shoes, with lots of sparkle throughout the ceremony and reception decor, rose petals everywhere...

Guess who's using EVERY single detail that I had planned (and had told her about when I was daydreaming about it). I was furious when I found out. Now, my FH and I have an entirely different plan in mind, but it still really frustrates me that someone was so jealous of my ideas she couldn't even use some ideas and customize the rest. But it helps me sleep at night knowing she isn't going to be living her own wedding, but someone else's childhood fantasy. And honestly, thinking about it like that makes me feel kind of bad for her.

Yep! I thought I was over reacting or the planning was making me crazy!! My bridesmaid is starting to get on my nerves slightly. I get married in just under a year after a 3 year engagement and she got engaged late last year. Whenever I talk about my plans she starts saying about what she's going to do (she hasn't booked hers yet) and saying I'm glad your doing that cos it's made me realise I won't be doing that. I'm having my sister as my maid of honour and her and my bridesmaids are helping me with most things but there are something's my FH and I are keeping under wraps. She's started commenting on how she's 'noticed' I'm keeping things close to my chest and that she's not having a maid of honour and all her bridesmaids are going to know everything and it'll be fantastic. I can't help thinking that it's a little out of order especially seen as she hasn't even booked her wedding yet!! Now her friends are having a go at me cos I'm 'stealing her thunder' and I should be more thought of her and her wedding' Please tell me I'm not being a bridezilla!!

Ok short story. I have a friend that we have been friends since 7th grade. She has always been competitive with me. I have always been there for her and just ignore her competitiveness. I have been with my fiancée for 12 years and we just got engaged finally 3 months ago. She assumed she was my moh but no. She's planning on getting pregnant soon and is very selfish. She will be I of my bridesmaids. She really hasn't helped me At all looking for venues or planning . I honestly feel that she's jealous because she did not have a nice ceremony . Idk am I crazy??? I feel she is not really happy for me . And it freaking bugs me!!!! I'm trying to be the bigger person and not be selfish but even with the smallest details she's trying to challenge me. I said I wante Sky hair down and the bridesmaids to have their hair up on my wedding day and she sends me a picture of a half up do??!!!!! And she says the hair shouldn't matter. I don't know I'm trying to keep my calm but she is not helping. She should be happy for me just as I was when she got married. Any advice?????