Amount of money for wedding gift

^^ yep! She seems to be on a spree of hiding posts. She did the same on another thread.

@Celia .. is that article you are talking about per person attending or per couple ?

I used to give $100 when I was single. I did it because that was what my parents gave per person when they went to weddings. Now my FH and I give $300 for friends and family will be higher depending on the relation. With that being said I will only attend friends and family weddings. If I'm grumbling about giving a gift that's an indication I should stay home. Work colleagues sometimes feel obligated to invite you to their wedding and to be honest these are not people I will probably be talking to if I move departments.

FH and I typically do $100 as a couple for the wedding and then typically I've been invited to all of the showers where I give an additional $75ish gift. Plus with most of those we've also been in the wedding party, so there are additional events and costs there, which we kind of have to balance with the actual gift because, you know...money.

We've gotten some early gifts for our wedding that range in the $80-$125 range.

Most perplexing is FH's friend who informed me, "me and XXX are official now, so can I get a plus one?" We just received their gift... a single towel from our registry. One. $25. Towel. From the couple. I'm truly perplexed at how to write their thank you. "Thanks for the...towel! We're always fighting over who gets to use it!"

Eng, uhhh it's a gift. That's a really rude response to a gift.

Swin, call me rude that's fine. Maybe I'm being petty. But they both have great jobs and he begged us for a plus one because their on again/off again timing happened to coincide with a big party she didn't want to be left out of. And FH felt guilty. So, yeah, idk.

I feel like if you can only spend $25 as a couple at least buy something that isn't supposed to come in pairs?

The last wedding FH and I went to, we gave $500, but we are close with their family. The one before that, we gave $300 to FH's coworker.

I think a gift is a gift. It's optional. They didn't have to get you anything.

I've given anywhere from $100-$500 depending on my relation to the person and whether I was going alone or with a date. Don't worry about covering your plate because the hosts shouldn't be expecting you to pay for yourself to attend their wedding.

I agree. No one has to get you anything. It's a gift.

I'm struggling because there are people I want to invite but I know giving a gift, especially what is the norm for the northeast, will be a burden on them. I don't want them to feel obligated to get us something. The greatest gift to me is for them to be there when we marry and to see my guests having a good time. I'd rather have a full dance floor than big gifts. I'm trying to figure out how to tell people that their presence is all I want.

I think about it this way if they have an open bar and provide a nice cocktail hour and dinner. I would put in $150 in the envelope. If the couple is related or close friends I would do $250 - $500. If I took my date/wife out for a nice dinner, drinks, appetizer and a place to dance it would be around $250 for the night out, so why wouldn't you put that in the envelope as the gift?