Amount of money for wedding gift

Got to say...never paid over $50. I'm not expecting anything when it comes to gifts. Obviously we'd get some but I do not want someone to feel like they shouldn't attend if they can't cover their plate cost! I'd be so sad to find that out afterwards

I think anywhere between 100 and 300 dollars

100-150$ for friends , 200$ for cousins, 300$ for siblings (though when my brother got married 10 years ago I was in college so I think I only did 150$ and pretty sure my parents helped me). ETA: just what we do

I am from a small town and it is very normal to give $50 as a couple, so seeing these $150 pp minimums are blowing my mind. I went to a friends wedding last summer alone and I gifted $25. I am also a fairly recent college graduate and FH is still in college. We gift what we can afford. My FBIL is getting married this summer and we will gift them a higher amount and close friends a higher amount but on average we do $25 pp. That will change as FH and I get settled with careers and such as well.

FH and I have been invited to 5 weddings this year and we can attend 4 of them. Given that FH is in law school and I am in a masters program we don't have a lot of money to spare. We were thinking around $100 for gifts since we also have to buy plane tickets and hotel rooms.

@hannah I do not agree at all. It's not a "pay your way" event. Your gift should be just that. A gift. The dinner and alcohol at the reception is being hosted by the bride and groom as a thank you for celebrating with them and coming to their wedding. You do not need to pay them back.

@Mandy I'm with you. I guess it depends on area. Some of these minimum "300" per couple is truly shocking to me. I'm from a small town in Illinois. I would say average wedding gift ranges from 50-100 with a generous one (from someone really close) being 200. In college I went to a friend's wedding and gave 40. I went to a friend's wedding last summer, now out of college and working, and I gave her 100. And I really am not being cheap for my area at all.

Hannah, you are wrong. Covering your plate is not an etiquette rule. It is a made up thing. What the couple *chooses* to spend on venue and catering is their choice and they should have no expectations of making that money back. It is not the guests responsibility to cover the cost of what the couple had chosen to spend. Especially when guests have all different budgets and may not have the ability to afford that much.

A wedding invitation not an invoice. It is NOT tacky for guests to give what they can afford.

To clarify. The 100 gift to my friend is only with me working. My fiancé was in law school.

He finds out if he passed the bar exam or not on April 12th! Think happy thoughts!

I always say "give as you are moved and able." Right now, I typically gift about $50. I'm also a college student working a part-time job barely over minimum wage, so $50 is generous from me. What you're able/comfortable giving differs between each person.

For real! It's a GIFT! There is no minimum requirement. You can't standardize it to everyone because everyone has different incomes and life situations. I like the "give as you are moved and able". Very appropriate.

I come from a boxed gift area. I usually buy about $100-150 of stuff off their registry.

At my wedding, we received very little (comparatively) cash. We got MAYBE 1k. Most of the monetary gifts were $50-100.

We usually do about $200 for friends and $250-300 for family. Really, it's whatever you can comfortably afford!

We are calm. We just think you are wrong.

I have a question for you though hannah. Let's say you are getting married. And your wedding is 100 per plate. You're best friend loses her job and can only afford to give you a 20 dollar gift. Should she just not come? Since she can't pay for her plate?

No worries Hannah, we are very calmly stating that you are wrong

I suspect you are the type of bride who will judge the hell out of your guests if they don't give you enough money to "cover their plate".

Because we disagree with you we must obviously take this site too seriously. You got me Hannah. That is exactly what is happening here.

I know the PER PERSON cost at my wedding was roughly $250. I would never ever expect to get a gift in that amount! Hannah, so wrong.

I'm actually printing out bills to send out to my guests as we speak. I want them to know what their cost is.

(Sarcasm)

Agreed, per plate cost has nothing to do with it. Why should someone at a fancy venue deserve more than someone you are just as close with who had a more scaled down wedding that they could afford? I gift what I can afford based off my relationship with the couple, not their wedding cost!

Hmmm someone's comments miraculously disappeared... odd