Am I crazy or has she become a Bridezilla?

Tell her no way Hosea, and if she doesn't like it say bye bye

I would reach out to her and have a conversation with her to remind her of your financial situation and let her know unfortunately you can't commit to her requests so respectfully you decline and would still love to attend as a guest, if she doesn't mind

I would just let her know that although you would like to take part in her big day, it's unfortunately not in your budget to expense everything she wants done for her wedding events, and you may need to step down to just a bridesmaid and let her sister handle it all.

She sounds kinda like a diva to me. I never had demands on my bffs for my wedding events and neither did she, even though we did do a lot for each other. What people don't understand these days, is you don't have to spend and arm and a leg for an event to be lovely and tasteful.

100 people for an engagement party? That sounds more like a wedding! You probably dont want to lose a friend but holy crap, if I were you, I would have exploded by now. Say something... at this point, I woouldnt even say that being polite about is a priority. Someone needs to put this girl in check.

I'd tell her (if you really do), that you are honored and would love to be her Matron of Honor, but you cannot afford those parties, and if she wants you to drop out bc of it you'll understand.

Wow! Sounds like a serious case of entitlement! You're not obligated to do any of the things she's demanding. I may be older and a little old school on some things, but I've never seen a MOH, Matron of H, or friend in the bridal party, pay for an engagement party, especially for 100 people. If she wants it so badly, let her sister just do it, or parents. As for the shower, it's not a rule that you have to pay for that either. If you want to, then figure out what you can afford and stick to it. Split it with the other bridesmaids. The 2 bachelorette parties sound very costly, you shouldn't have to foot the bill for everything. It's one thing to split the cost with the other girls, but this is so excessive. I haven't posted a response like this before, but what she wants/demands, just seems really rude to me. It's actually pretty rude and ballsy of the sister to tell you what you had to do.

Talk to her and explain your issues with price

Wow I would drop out so fast.

Definitely a bridezilla. Tread carefully.

Man, I'd drop this faster than fifth period French. I'd text her and be like "hey sorry but I can't be your bridesmaid anymore. See ya at the wedding."

Omg! I can't even imagine demanding something like these things!!! And I'm assuming she knows money is tight! Sit down and let her know you love and support her but can only do xyz... nothing more. This is insane! Your dress costing $260!!! No. Just no...

I would never in a million years asked my bridesmaid to do any of that! My bridesmaids laid 40 dollars for a dress and hotel room. That is it! Everyone has shit going on how could she expect you to do all that!

I'm with the drop out team!