Am I crazy or has she become a Bridezilla?

Wow, I would not be taking part in any of those outrageously expensive parties - especially since she's "dictating" them!

Drop out girl

If you're hearing all this through her sister, I would give her the benefit of the doubt and talk to her directly. If she is actually expecting all these things, tell her you're sorry, but that you can't afford to do everything she's asking. Don't burn the friendship - but you're not obligated to do anything these asking except buy the dress and show up. If even the dress is too expensive, then it's time to drop out.

Drop out. That shit is ridiculous.

Move it along.

Yikes, she is at level 10

Bridezilla status. This is awful. There should be absolutely no demands of anything related to throwing her parties or spending money. Anything that is done for her is because people OFFER, not because she or the other MOH demand it.

It is especially horrific behavior given she knows you are going through a rough time. Please speak up for yourself. If you want to contribute, let the other MOH know that you are only able to commit $X amount to a shower or bachelorette and that's it. Also let her know that you cannot commit to a week in Miami for financial reasons. So insane!!

She is your friend, so you should talk to her. Everything she is doing is wrong. Maybe invite her to WW where she can learn about wedding etiquette. If all else fails I would honestly drop out due to the financial burden she is placing you and her entire WP in.

Your friend is being awful. I agree with @Emily that if you still want to be in the wedding, decide on a set amount that you can contribute and let MOH know, and then if you get any grief from it, be prepared to drop out.

Honestly if your friend knows knows what you're going through and is still expecting this from you, she's completely lost touch with reality. You can either call her and tell her to get a fucking grip and see if that wakes her up, or just drop out and attend as a guest.

I would drop out. Say what Richard advised. She sucks.

Agreed with PP. I would ask the bride directly, too. Does she know about all this? It seems she does, but I'd still call her out for abusing your friendship.

It sounds like she is being a bridezillla. Being that it is your best friend I would not just drop out. I would however express that financially you are not responsible for throwing all these parties and that if she is going to "require" you to pay almost 5 grand you cant do it. It is one to thing for you to offer to throw shower and a bacherolette party but it is another for it to be expected and not just one but two. I am sorry but your friend is loosing it.

Hell to the NO.. you offer to pay what you CAN (if you even are offering) and if she gives you shit for this, then politely drop out (as others have said). Anything that you are willing to contribute is a gift and is not required by any means. Stay strong OP!

If this was my best friend I would tell her she has lost her mind. #Simple

I would have a conversation with her asap, before you're in too deep.

I would say respectfully bow out. Reiterate your financial situation. Let her know you were honored to be asked to be apart of her special day, but you just can't swing the expenses of being a bridesmaid right now. Say you hope she understands, and you still look forward to being apart of her special day.

Could her sister be misrepresenting the bride's requests? Like maybe the bride doesn't know you are being given the choice of all food or all alcohol? Or being asked to do two bachelorettes? Maybe the bride thinks you guys are deciding between bachelorette ideas? Talk toy your friend about it. If she truly is expecting all of this, let her know that you will have to at least skip the bachelorettes.

Girl, I just read this and I am still in shock. Did you say 5K or was that a typo? Honestly, if she truly thinks of you as her friend and knows what u hv bn going thru, then she should be ashamed to even mention such an amount to u, even though she was slick enuf to go thru her sister! If I were in your shoes, I would very nicely send her one of those pins about Bridesmaid and MOH duties and tell her you would do ur best to support her on her wedding day but it is not your responsibility to pay for her engagement party or any of her several prewedding events! Don't get me wrong... having multiple prewedding events is not a crime. I hv a few planned but FH & I plan to pay for everything ourselves except the shower and bachelor (ette) parties.

So, don't let her make you feel bad for standing up for yourself and saying a polite "No" if you have to.

Don't just step out - run if you value your friendship. If you stay it will only get worse.

I had an issue like this years ago with a wedding. The bride made so many demands of me because she and her MOH were out of work and I had a really good job. She wanted me to pay for everything! Bridal shower, bachelorette party, even wedding day extras (like chip in for the wine and beer). I was up front with her when she asked and told her what I could afford to spend (more like what I was willing. I am not a bank at her disposal.) That wasn't good enough for her. She wanted more and more.

In the end we had a huge blow out the night before the wedding and I told her were to shove that ugly blue box satin taffeta dress and off brand vans I was supposed to wear. We haven't spoken since and it resulted in me losing a whole group of friends.

No way could I deal with and do that much.

Yeah....no thanks. Drop out.

@OP please come back soon with an update!