Am I being selfish with a Friday wedding?

Having your wedding on a Friday itself is not selfish. Having your wedding on a Friday and then getting upset about declines or talking about how if people who really wanted to be there could somehow make it work would be selfish.

No it's not selfish at all. We had a Friday wedding, just tell people in advance so if they have to take time off or whatever they know early.

You do you so long as your guests do what's best for them.

Nah, I'm having a Friday wedding - starts at 6pm (and it's nearby) so plenty of people don't even have to take time off work to make it. Some people are taking half days. And plenty of people declined. It all works out.

Our wedding is on a Friday. Our venue was all booked on Saturdays so our options were Friday or Sunday and there was no way in hell I was having our wedding on a Sunday.

It's not horrible but maybe a little inconvenient. I think most guests understand. If you're okay with some declines because of this, you're fine. Look at it this way. This might save you even more money with the declines.

I just got married last Friday. We invited 129...118 rsvp yes with 2 no shows the day of. A LOT of my guests made a full weekend out of it.

Weddings are optional - your guests will make whatever allowances they can and cannot. We're having a Friday wedding and there certainly are people that can't attend due to time off or finances.

We do Thursday and Fridays almost every week in season. It's not selfish. In a lot of cases, our venues are booked for Saturdays years ahead of time. Yes, for the venues it's usually a bit cheaper.

I will say about this what I say about every scheduling issue; if your wedding isn't important enough for a guest to take vaca time off, then they don't come.

I'll take Friday over Sunday weddings.

I'm jealous of all the people saving money for having a Friday wedding: we didn't save a cent for choosing Friday. We just did Friday because of venue availability.

Most of our guests are OOT because our families and BP are scattered everywhere, so everyone will have to take off work that day. We're perfectly ok with declines if people can't make it, and understand that most people might not be able to or want to. The people that we really want there are going to be there. If someone can't make it? No hard feelings.

I had mine on a Friday. It's becoming the new norm now and I don't regret it. I'd rather attend a Friday wedding than a Sunday one. We invited 105 guests and 99 attended with only 1 person unable to take the day off.

Friday and Sunday weddings are cheaper, so I completely understand and support your decision.

Just be prepared that a lot of people might not make it, especially OOT guests.

My opinion is a bit unpopular but I don't like putting people in that situation to decide whether or not they can take off work. If I were considering a Friday wedding, I would check with my VIP guests. FH and I did not consider a Friday wedding because we have too many family members and friends that we would hate to have miss out.

Example: If one of my close friends has a Friday wedding between now and May 2019, I would most likely not be able to attend because I have to save my PTO for my own wedding plus other family obligations already planned for. It wouldn't be a case of "if they're important enough" to me, it would be really unfortunate timing and would break my heart to have to decline the RSVP. I'm hoping to avoid creating that situation as much as possible for my guests!

Friday is great. I bet the venue price is cheaper too. Just let people know far enough in advance so they can make arrangements with their job or school.

I'd take off work (reluctantly because I live to travel and so I hoarde my vacation time) for a close friend or family member. I'm invited to a 3pm Friday wedding later this year for an acquaintance and I will certainly be showing up for the reception only as I don't want to take off a half day.

It's an invitation, not a summons. You plan the event you want and as long as you don't get mad if people can't make it, you're not being rude.

UO - I hate when people throw Friday weddings. I think its rude to make people take off work just so you can save money. However - if you matter to them they will make it work. I once got invited to a Friday wedding, three hours away, without my FH (boyfriend of 2 years at the time) and I didn't go because I thought that was super selfish.

I went to a Friday wedding last year and it was a great time. I was happy to have both saturday and sunday to recover.

I think most people who are close to you and are able to attend, will do so no matter what. But its up to them, and you have to be ok with people who won't be able to make it.

It's not selfish because you have to do what works best for you. I will say you definitely need to be understanding and not upset if you have people decline because it's a Friday. So plan accordingly and be prepared.