Am I being selfish with a Friday wedding?

It's not selfish at all. Just be understanding if people can't make it. If it's saving you a good deal of money, keep it on Friday.

I'm doing a Friday wedding because it will save us a ton of money and I'm doing it in the evening so those who want to come and have to work won't have to worry about taking time off

Mines is on a Friday I don't think it's being selfish at all. What I have learned is Fridays are a little more cheaper. Plus on saturday it cost more and they want you to have more guest. I wouldn't change it mines is in the evening. we party till 11:30pm hey I look at it as a good start to the weekend.

I mean, I'm not sure if selfish is the right word, but yea i do get a little sad when a friend opts for a friday wedding because I have very limited vacation time. I completely understand the reasoning but it is inconvenient. There will undoubtedly be some declines from people that aren't as close to you and it will make it more difficult for out of towners. However, I don't think iit will affect whether your VIPS attend or not.

Mine is on a Friday and my FMIL actually was so happy she cried. My FH's family has a lot of Jewish people (so does my step-dads) and they're not allowed to work or celebrate on the Sabbath (Saturday), so Friday was actually better for everyone in my situation.

Plus, taking a Friday off work isn't a huge deal. If you have any family or friends who don't work a typical 9-5, M-F job, its actually MORE difficult to get Saturdays off anyway.

My wedding is on a Friday, however, I chose it because many of my guests are students, shift workers (healthcare, veterinary medicine, police, EMS, and fire), or retired. I also sent out STDs very early (10 months) to give people enough time to ask off if they wished.

I don't think it's selfish just know some people may choose to not attend or attend for reception only.

I considered a Friday, but everyone had to travel and FH has a difficult time taking off, so I picked a Saturday instead!

No shame in Friday- it saves money, and I've had friends say that they maybe prefer Fridays to Saturday weddings when they travel because they get a day on the back end to relax and visit some more before heading home on Sunday.

Not selfish. I'm saving it on a Friday, so far nobody has any issues, most of out guests are from OOT. With plenty of notice, those that really want to attend will be there... plus, it's an awesome way to start the weekend

We're getting married on a Friday too, Friday the 13th actually! For us it was strategic to ensure we DO have less guest. With a Friday wedding, we can invite our full list (170) knowing we will have a higher decline rate. Hoping for ~120.

I'm getting married this Friday We originally wanted a Saturday, but the venue we wanted was all booked for Saturday's for 2017 so we opted for a Friday. We had very few people that declined the RSVP, and we have people from 13 different states coming so they don't seem deterred by a Friday. Sending Save the Dates was also a good thing so that people had a heads up and could plan ahead.

I am having mine on a Thursday. We are just preparing for some people to not be able to make it. We have expressed that we will understand given how inconvenient it might be for them.

We had a Friday morning ceremony and lunch reception. But we also only invited 22 people. My parents had to travel to our area and would have taken off work for a few days anyways, DH's parent's are retired, and our closest friends are police officers, nurses, and hospitality workers, so weekend or not wouldn't have made a huge difference to their rotating schedules.

If we would have had a larger 150 person wedding, we probably would have gone for a weekend so that more people would have been able to attend, or stick with the Friday but realize that we may have more declines.

If it's a Friday evening, and your guests have been given adequate notice via a written invitation, no, then you're hosting a Friday evening celebration. Sounds great to me -- not a hint of selfishness. I've attended plenty of them, and have serviced even more. They're a blast -- just as good as a Saturday evening wedding. Friday evenings are perfectly acceptable wedding dates.

I don't think you are being selfish but STD are a must!!!

They always could just miss the ceremony and join you at the Reception. I'm tinkering with the idea of a Friday as well so I am glad you posted this!

I'm having a Friday wedding. I have come to accept that not everyone will be able to make it and that's OK. My venue was cheaper on a Friday and it will be available until 1 in the morning, which my very large and loud Latino family really appreciates LOL.

I don't think so. Everyone has their reasons. My mom told me today "If they truly want to be there they will make it work"

No you're fine. I'm so happy I'm having a Friday wedding and no one had any negative remarks when I talked about it. My one friend actually said the best wedding she ever went to was on a Friday because she had two days off afterwards to recover from drinking

I wouldn't feel bad! We chose a Friday over a 3 day weekend for the price and because it was the only date available. But we are in love with that date because it gives us an evening ceremony and reception and 3 days to party with family before we go honeymooning!

If the wedding is in the evening everything is fine. If someone gets married during the day i would only attend if they are good friends. I know that many people complained and got angry about a friends Friday daytime wedding since the couple saved money but every guest lost one day of vacation or salary.