Am I being a jerk by asking my bridesmaids not to cut their hair?

I could mayyyybe see this being ok if you were paying for everyone to have an updo. I'm saying this because it happened in my friends wedding. She wanted updos and a girl cut her hair and she was super annoyed. But it really didn't matter in the end. They all looked beautiful with their hair styled the way they wanted it to be! Don't stress about it, it really wont matter down the line.

Yep

I would never considering asking my bridesmaid to cut/not cut their hair.. that is bridezilla.

Thank god I am not your bridesmaid/moh because I would have refused to even come to your wedding if you ever asked me to do anything like that. lol

Yes. That would be jerk like.

I'm glad you realize it! I would make a quick apology to these two people for your 'zilla moment and losing perspective on what matters. Buy them lunch and tell them you love them and can't wait to have them in your wedding because you love them.

The hair really doesn't matter. ETA: I would also update the original post to say you realized and aren't going to make a big deal about their hair cuts, because people will likely continue to comment without reading the whole thread to realize you had the change of heart

Yes. Why does it matter? they should be able to cut their hair however they want FFS. You choose them to stand up with you because of your relationship with them (hopefully) not for what they look like.

"I don't like short hair on two particular people" wow, so friendly. I mean, screw them if they like the way they look, right OP?

@OP I would apologize and let them do what they want to their hair. If a haircut doesn't work for them, that's for them to decide.

Yes

I only read your title

So glad you realized this op! Weddings can make us all a little crazy but don't lose sight of yourself and your relationship with your friends!

Yup. Bridezilla.

Good job taking good advice

She updated bottom of page 1.

Actually very receptive. Good job OP- very adult of you.

FutureMrsE- I think she's entitled to think someone has a bad hair cut- or a less than flattering cut.

She should keep that opinion to her self quite frankly unless asked- but she's certainly entitled to think that.

Sure she can think that, but then telling them not to cut their hair because she doesn't like them with short hair is different.

Stop it

It's their hair, you don't get to dictate that. Eta just saw the update.

..........yesssss

Yeah...I agree with pp's. You can't demand that they don't cut their own hair. They are your friends, not employees.