Am I being a jerk by asking my bridesmaids not to cut their hair?

Yes that makes you a jerk.

Just because this is the only thing you asked of them, which I don't think is true, does not make it ok.

Yes! they can do whatever they want. they Are your bridesmaids not your employee

Yep, you're being a jerk.

100% this is bitch behavior.

*not saying you are a bitch* but it's bitchy behavior.

Yes. You're dictating what *they're* doing with *their* body.

Their body. Their choice.

You're in the wrong here.

Yeah you are a jerk for that! That's THEIR hair!

Yes. I wear my hair in bobs. Would you just not have invited me into your BP if I was your friend?

Yes, you are... these are people you love that are present to celebrate your big day. Don't make it unpleasant & lose friendships!

They're people not props. My mother keeps her hair cut very short and when it grows too long without getting it cut it is a constant annoyance and bother to her. It may seem like nothing to you, but they get to control their appearances and comfort levels on every day of their adult lives, setting aside that they've agreed to wear a special dress for you.

And no, you being lax and trying to be a cool bride by not dictating the exact style of the dress does not give you a free pass to dictate their hair cuts.

You can't tell them how long they have to have their hair. The only thing they have to do is show up and wear the dress you picked out. That's it.

Breathe. Try to calm yourself down. But I do have to agree you can't tell someone what to do with their body.

Another vote for yes

Yah this is ridiculous, you are being a jerk, your friends are not props.

Yes you are being a jerk is the simple answer

You're going to lose friends OP. It's just hair.

You are definitely out of line. I usually do a huge chop around summer because it gets so hot and had a bride yell at me because I didn't fit her vision.

Needless to say we don't speak anymore.

OP here. As I typed this all out, I think it stems from me not liking short hair on these 2 particular people. Which as people have pointed out, really isn't my business

Sometimes it takes the perspective of strangers to realize that you are being a jerk!

Yes, you are completely wrong here. You are treating your loved ones like props.

Yes, that is bridezilla behavior. You have no right to dictate the length of their hair just because they're in your wedding. They're your friends; act like it.

That's really terrible. If I was your bridesmaid I would cut my hair just to prove a point.

You should apologize to them.