Already married but having a wedding

I went to a quinceanera last year and the girl was actually 16. Does that meant I didn't go? No! Does that meant she didn't get a gift? No! What's it matter?!?!

View Quoted Comment I’m having my wedding this year too on the day of our two year anniversary!

View Quoted Comment Thank u soo much for ur response...you said a mouthful and ur words" because I can" will be my motto lol luv it..I am also having my first real day aka vowel renewal with all the trimmings and was against it until I came across ur comment...Blessings on ur "Take 2" have fun and go big "because you can" 🤗🤗🤗

VOW renewal.... sigh

View Quoted Comment Doing the same on 91/19. I love the Wedding Take Two concept! I think we are calling our day a Recommitment ceremony! We are getting married a day before our 1 Year anniversary!

View Quoted Comment Thanks you!!! That’s my thought exactly!!

My sister is law was married for 3 years and then had the wedding of her dreams. 15k dollar wedding. Bridesmaids. Videographer. Catered food. The works. You have your wedding and dont listen to these negative Nancy's. Her wedding was seriously the best and most beautiful wedding I have ever seen.
It's your life you do what you want. Call it what you want. Screw others.

View Quoted Comment Yes thank you we are doing the same thing!! we are getting married may 22nd by the court and in 2 years ceremony & all. covid screwed everything up and 4 family members are getting married next year.
when its our turn we will get married before God and our families i love the wedding take two idea! and this time we can read our vows.
love how u are supporting the above question and not being rude because technically your married before the wedding anyways. love the positive vibes because weddings are an emotional thing especially when family is important.

View Quoted Comment It matters. It is hurtful to those who had small ceremonies (due to Covid or other personal reasons) to discount that as not an "actual wedding". If someone in the past year graduated (earned all units and received a diploma) they don't get to graduate again if they had to postpone party/celebration to another time.

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Agree completely

I know I’m late, but a marriage is not the same as a wedding. You can do them separately if you wish. Marriage is legal, a wedding ceremony is for show.

Hi,

Opinion from a man here...you go ahead and have the wedding of your dreams. Ignore what anyone else says, most other people who will say not to do it for this reason or that reason, had their wedding just the way they wanted, and there is absolutely NO REASON you shouldn't have yours.

I've been married almost 20 years and eloped and it is the greatest regret of my life, not having the wedding I wanted. I have no pictures of my wedding, had an absolutely terrible wedding night and no honeymoon. oh, and one gift-a fruit basket. When we hit 25 years, we will have a re-wedding and i'll get the memories I want, the photos with family who are left, my wife being walked down the aisle by her father to the wedding march in a white wedding dress (and I don't care what anyone thinks of that), a first dance, and I will get to cut a wedding cake, followed by a honeymoon.

Yes, I'm deeply bitter I missed out, but I have a great marriage. I'll get the wedding I want one day soon. So you plan your dream wedding, invite who you want, do what you want and make those memories. In reality, your guests will be happy to support you, and it will be great!!!!!

All the best,

Nick

View Quoted Comment Nick I SO LOVE your answer, same here we didn't get anything but a small office us and the notary public, so this time we are getting the wedding we didnt get. As we wanted 20 years ago, GOOD FOR YOU it's nice to hear a man say this BRAVO!!!!!

My fiance's cousin did exactly that and it was pretty much just a wedding, with subtle nods to the fact that it was the anniversary. They had the traditional wedding attire and attendants, first dance, ceremony, table settings, everything. Now if only I had gotten a good look at those invites!

This is really common for military couples. I’ve been to 2 weddings where the couple was legally married (my sister and a close friend) and everything was the same as a normal wedding. My sister isn’t military but got married legally before moving to Japan and came back a year later to have the wedding. My friend is in the navy and I didn’t even know she was legally married before the wedding til after it happened. She said most military couples do this due to issues with deployment.

View Quoted Comment Not really because that was your decision. If you wanted to throw yourself a big party later you could do it too. If the small ceremony was what you wanted, then that’s great too. And no one said it’s “not a real wedding”.

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I know this was years ago but, thank you. I was starting to get discouraged. I am doing the exact same thing. We went to the courthouse 1st time. This wedding is not just for me and my husband it is for out whole family. Due to covid no one was allowed to come with us.

View Quoted Comment Hi Shonna,
You have no idea how wonderful it is to hear you are doing the same thing in 2022! Like you I was beginning to feel discouraged and your post really helped! 🙂
My fiance' just recently proposed and due to us living 1,300 miles apart and the economy the way it is plus work, traveling back and forth is just to much. Anyway, we are going to be getting "legally" married in April, then in October have a vow renewal ceremony and reception for our friends and family to attend.
My biggest concern though has been whether people will understand & still come because technically we will already be married....That being said , I know that those who are truly happy for us will understand and want to celebrate with us in October. If you have struggled with this same thought may I ask how you have dealt with it?
Also, how are you doing your asile march...like is your Father going to be walking yoy down , and if so is he quote un quote going to give you away? 🤔

View Quoted Comment We are not having a bridal party. My dad will be walking me down the aisle but not giving me away. Our wedding is very laid back and casual. My husband had to sit me down and basically told me if someone is going to be that petty about it. Then that is their problem not ours. I am definitely having to learn to be a bit selfish. I decided this will be our memories and we will do it the way we want. I know that mentality is easier said than done.

View Quoted Comment I did a courthouse wedding and I’m honestly regretting it. I wish my husband would have just waited saved and planned. I lost out on our first dance, the father daughter dance, my dad walking me down the aisle and having a bridal party. Both my husband and i wish we did this rather than rushing to get married