Hi hi !
Writing because I could use some advice, didn't want to speak to my mother about this or anyone I know closely. My Fiance has a substance abuse problem, I threatened him that if he did a certain drug again that he would lose me, so he stopped that drug. Now he just drinks alot, most days of the week. He will go out after work and not tell me, get home drunk and not kiss me or lay with me, go outside for a smoke and disappear for hours without answering the phone or my messages. When he's drunk he is disrespectful and hurtful , I have been crying myself to sleep multiple times a week. In the morning he will be apologetic and me, not wanting us to be over forgives him. Marriage is about 'through thick and thin' right? But I don't know how to make him change. If I kick him out of the house to scare him I fear he will leave and be too prideful to come back. Any advice on how to help him change/get better? When we are good, we are amazing. We are getting married this June!