Alcohol or Dry Wedding?

Do a consumption bar if you're thinking people won't drink a lot. Like others suggested just beer and wine is fine too

We are having beer and wine, it comes in a set package at our venue that also includes other non alcoholic drinks. My family and friends are not big drinkers but enjoy having it available for special occasions. I wouldn't stay long at a dry wedding. People normally at least appreciate the option. If its price that's worrisome, reach out to local brewers or wineries and see what they have to offer. just doing beer/wine is way cheaper and doesn't have to get as involved if there's liquor

I'm sorry, I guess maybe I'm in the wrong forum. If I came across any of your posts, I would not consider calling you "cheap as fuck" to be helpful and if that's what I thought of your question I would probably just move on. Also some of us have jobs and children and can't spend all day scrolling through other people's posts. I do mean it, I appreciate the input. I had never heard of a consumption bar and I didn't know there were places that would buy back unopened bottles. Those tidbits are very helpful. I just don't appreciate the cattiness. And I've seen it on a lot of other posts.

I had passed mimosas from 10-10:30 AM and open beer/wine/champagne bar from 11am-2pm. People drank. People enjoyed themselves. Time of day should not be a hurdle in properly hosting your guests.

You asked if it would make you look cheap. We all emphatically said "yes it will make you look cheap".

I'm sorry you think we are all childless jobless bums. We aren't. There is a search option. You can search what has been said in the past.

I don't think anyone called YOU "cheap as fuck". The idea of a dry wedding, however, IS cheap as fuck.

A bunch of sober people sitting around a few tables with music playing in the background. Sounds like bored teenagers hanging out in a food court, not a wedding.

@Kristin I've said more than once I appreciate the input and have learned new things that are very helpful. I just don't appreciate the condescension and cattiness that came with some of them. And not everyone. Most people have been civil and helpful, but it's always the same few on every post making people feel stupid for asking questions.

FFS, if you ask if your idea is cheap, don't bitch when people call your idea cheap.

"Honey does my arse look fat in these jeans?"

There is no good answer. You are not going to find validation for not hosting properly.

Kayla if you had the time to notice those that comment on every post, why didn't you know the answer to your questions then? It's not like it's posted every 43 seconds or so ..

Is a consumption bar possible for you? I've only been to 1 dry wedding and FH and I didn't know anyone there and were sitting at a table by ourselves so it was really awkward. We waited til the couple arrived, said hi to them, and went and had dinner at a restaurant with my parents.

At least do beer and wine

You can do beer and wine. My fiance's mom and dad are not drinkers and some others in his family, but I am pretty sure some of them will drink. Its a celebration.

Little story: When we went to look at a venue and were going over the package my mom made a comment to the sales guy about removing the open bar, and would it be cheaper. My sister and I looked at her like she was crazy LOL.

Without reading any of the previous posts - a dry wedding would be cheap as fuck.

When in doubt...provide alcohol. It doesn't have to be a full open bar.

@OGJV hit the nail on the head re: jeans comment.

Yes - cheap. very cheap.

You wanted opinions; you got them. You just didn't get, possibly, the ones you wanted. That doesn't make us rude. Actually, it makes us helpful. NO one was 'catty' (hmmmm...I wonder what 'doggy' is like; keep it clean, lol....) everyone was helpful.

Some of us have jobs and children and businesses, but took the time to answer you. A little gratitude for helping you not create a rude party that people WILL talk about. And not in a good way.

Celia nailed it!

Unless every single person attending your wedding is in AA together you provide some kind of alcohol. That doesn't mean it's hoping to be a raging party. Not big drinkers doesn't mean they won't drink at all. It's nice to enjoy a glass of wine or a pint of beer at a special occasion and they should have that option. If your worried about cost, only offer beer and wine and it will bring that down a little.

We're having an afternoon tea wedding, and we're still offering wine and champagne. I don't expect people to drink much since they'll all be driving, but I think something needs to be available at the minimum.

You don't need to spend loads of money, though.