Hey everyone. So we are having alcohol at the wedding, and I would prefer it not be there but I got alot of backlash when I said that. A lot of people in our families have addiction issues or act crazy when they are drinking. Whats a good amount of beer and wine to have, so people don't get crazy but can still have a drink or 2? We have to order it ourselves. There will be about 40 adults or so. Thank you!
In my opinion. I think you should have it readily available or not. I don't love the idea of only getting enough for people to have one or two. Some people drink a lot faster than others so I may want a glass of wine with dinner, but what if someone else already had like 4 drinks and now there's not enough? I think you should stick with your no alcohol plan rather than policing the consumption per person - especially if you are paying for everything.
The issue with this, is they told me that if I don't have any they are going to sneak it in or basically tailgate in the parking lot. Which if they did this, then we could get in trouble with the venue. I have a hard time saying no unfortunately.
We have some heavy drinkers in our family, too, and they just snuck their alcohol in at my sister's dry wedding. It helps to have beer and wine, especially if if is low alcohol content beer and wine, instead of mixed drinks. But heavy drinkers will likely still drink all the alcohol and light drinkers probably won't get more than one or two beers. The best way to limit it would be not to have any at all. It is your choice since you are the host!
We considered doing drink tickets. I just don't want certain people making a fool out of themselves. I grew up around alcoholics, so it is not my favorite thing in the world. Also, as I commented above, they told me if I don't have it they will sneak it in and then we can get in trouble with the venue. :/
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If it helps, my sisters venue had a strict no alcohol policy and no one got too wild or got caught. They just brought discreet flasks and spiked their tea in the bathroom. They did have their own afterparty though and things got a little sloppy there.
I got ya. I don't think that anyone on my side of the family will be drinking. The issue comes with those on my FH's side of the family. Almost all of them have a drinking problem and end up fighting in some way or another when alcohol is involved. They are the reason I am having it, because they all kept coming to me and saying the wedding is going to suck without it or people won't have a good time if we don't etc etc
Totally your wedding and I’ve been to non-alcohol weddings and had a great time! ❤️ Lots of great ideas already posted and another thought to add to the mix - just have one champagne toast. If any asks, yes there will be alcohol there (technically) 😉
Your event, your decision. Talk to the bartender. Do not announce ahead of time that it is a dry wedding and deflect the question to another topic if anyone brings it up. Guests don't need that information.
Do not even serve champagne. If you want a toast, let them drink what they already have or serve sparkling Martinellis nonalcoholic cider
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If you are concerned with people acting violently after drinking at your wedding, you should definitely not have alcohol there, or not invite those particular people. Choosing to invite those people and have alcohol at your reception means that you are aware of the risks in doing so and are choosing to accept the consequences of it. It doesn’t matter if you try to limit their intake by limiting the amount of alcohol you provide, they will just drink other people’s’ portions (leaving some guests without drinks at all), and then likely still bring in outside drinks.
Unfortunately the issue lies within my FH's side of the family. I can't not invite his family. I guess I just have a lot to consider. I have been going back and forth on this for about a year now. We get married in a little over a month, so I need to get this figured out.