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Alcohol at my wedding?

Sophie, on August 21, 2024 at 3:57 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

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Hi everyone I need some advice,

Me and my fiancée are Christian and are planning to honour God at our wedding. My side of my family is Christian and there are few who do not attend church regularly however my fiancées side is non Christian and there are only a couple of people who attend church. In particular my fiancées side drinks a lot of alcohol and one of them is a major alcoholic that cannot go a day without like 10 drinks or he will die.
As the wedding is honouring God the Bible says not to get drunk off alcohol, so we were thinking to have a bar in which you get 3 drinks and that is it. However for the people who sent Christian and the alcoholic is this the right thing? I don’t want drunk people at my wedding as it is dishonouring God and I don’t feel like it’s a good idea to start my marriage sinning. Please any advice to work around this and my soon to be husbands side of the family would be appreciated.

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Latest activity by LM, on August 22, 2024 at 8:54 AM

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Cece · on August 21, 2024 at 1:53 PM
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These are adults, and should be treated as such. Meaning, you should not be regulating their alcohol intake. I would either have the bar and let adults make choices for their own bodies, or I would have a dry wedding with no alcohol at all.
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Andrea · on August 21, 2024 at 2:35 PM
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It’s very hard to limit alcohol at a wedding once you decide to have it. Even doing tickets or something, people can easily get around that by having someone else “go get me a drink.” You can choose to have a limited bar with only a few drink options (just beer & wine, or beer, wine, and a special cocktail).

If you don’t think that would be enough in your circumstances, you are perfectly free to just have a dry wedding. Alcohol is not required for proper hosting, and you don’t need to provide something that you have personal or religious objections to. I’d just advise in that case to have a couple of options beyond just water. Tea & lemonade, maybe soft drinks. It just helps ease the no-alcohol for people who just like variety.
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Janet · on August 21, 2024 at 2:51 PM
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Dry wedding seems to be the way to go. Have an assortment of soda, juices, and water.
You aren't the one who is getting drunk, so I don't think you would be the one sinning if others did. Grown adults make their own choices, and even if you did a cash bar or beer and wine, there's nothing stopping guests from over indulging. Most people don't go to weddings to get drunk, and it's not a strong argument (To Me). Yes people will drink and have a couple glasses to unwind and loosen up, but the amount it takes to be a drunken mess varies and most adults know their limit.

In addition to a dry wedding, have a note that says alcohol is prohibited and you will be asked to leave if you are caught (Or something along those lines). Those who want to drink will find a way via flask, byob, etc. and you may need to push back on guests who fail to follow your wishes.
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CM · on August 22, 2024 at 1:06 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with limiting drinks but a limit at the bar or tickets is not the appropriate way to go about it at a private social function. I’d either have the waiters serve a butlered glass of wine during cocktail hour and directly to the table for a toast or maybe do a signature drink.
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LM · on August 22, 2024 at 8:54 AM
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Agree with all those above. Your guests are adults who can regulate their own consumption. To add, your bartenders have professional licenses which includes ensuring no one is overserved, and your venue is liable for safety of guests. You can also hire security for added assurance and crowd control, but I doubt that's necessary given your crowd. In sum, you cannot control other people, but as a Host you can certainly opt for table wine only poured by servers (also liable professionally), or just have a dry wedding.
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