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After the party is the after-Party!

Mrs. Grissett-Johnson, on June 29, 2013 at 2:41 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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For anyone who remembers my FH and I had decided to elope in November of this year, but we still wanted to have a ceremony for just close family and friends. Due to us not inviting a large amount of people we've decided not to have an evening reception with a DJ, dance floor and that whole bit. Still we want our guests to have fun and really remember the occasion.

After our AM ceremony we plan to have a 2 p.m. lunch reception with lots of good eats and cake. To keep the party going we want to arrange a "wedding after-party" to take place around 9 p.m. at a predetermined location (downtown bar/lounge). The idea is that the wedding party and mostly younger guests (over 21 of course) will attend. We'll have music and finger foods, but guests will cover their own drinks.

Have you ladies ever attended a wedding After-party that was separate from the actual reception and if so how was the experience?

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Latest activity by BoatBride2014, on July 1, 2013 at 1:51 PM

Devoted May 2014
caiters91 · on June 29, 2013 at 3:19 PM
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I've never attended one, but we are going to have one. Sorry that wasn't much help!
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FutureMrsL · on June 29, 2013 at 4:31 PM
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Yea, I was involved in a BP last weekend that had one. They had it at the groom's parents' house and the reception was a picnic at the church. They had some snacks and alcohol. I would suggest making sure there is some substantial food around! Lol there was not enough food at the wedding and then my FH and I were starving by the time of the after party and there was not enough food there either. Adults of all ages came.
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Mrs. Hawkins · on June 29, 2013 at 4:39 PM
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Yes, I was married 2 weeks ago and we had an after party. Our venue had limitations on time. We only had 4 hours for the reception and we knew that would not make much of a party. We elected to have the reception more of an elaborate dinner than a normal reception, no dancing or alcohol. We rented a space at our hotel and had dancing and alcohol after the reception. This worked perfect for us because we had a DW and 90% of the guest that attended were staying in the same hotel, so there was no worrying about them driving home after partying. Best decision ever!
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ForeverMyLove · on June 29, 2013 at 4:59 PM
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Food for Thought:

FH and I were guests at a wedding with an "after party" at a night club in San Diego. When we arrived at the location for the party, we learned there was a cover charge. FH refused to attend. He felt if you are going have an "after party," you should pay the cover charge since he will have to pay for his own drinks.
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Ab · on June 29, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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A few years ago I went to one where we went out to a bar after..mainly the younger crowd..I honestly can't remember if there was a cover charge, if there was maybe it was like 5 bucks which honestly was fine. It's a bar, not a private party so it's to be expected.

For my wedding the reception was in a hotel , there was a bar that was part of the hotel so after the 5 hour reception (with open bar) those who wanted to joined us and bought their own drinks, no cover.
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Mary Jo · on June 30, 2013 at 12:14 AM
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I have never experienced one, but me and my FH plan on doing the same thing.
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TooManyMistys · on June 30, 2013 at 12:28 AM
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I would be fine paying as well for the cover as long as we were informed. It's not a private party OR anything I am obligated to attend at that point it see it no different than friends meet up at a club I usually apay my way with that.
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Mrs. A. Fernandez · on June 30, 2013 at 9:02 PM
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Sounds fun!!!
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Mrs. Grissett-Johnson · on July 1, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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Thanks for the feedback everyone. Sounds like we've made a good decision to have an after-party. Since we're having our lunch reception at a restaurant (no rental fee), the money we save on not renting a reception hall will go towards renting space at one of our favorite lounges so we can eat and dance the night away. I'm excited now. I think our guests will dig it completely.
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Shawndra · on July 1, 2013 at 12:09 PM
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Wait a second! Is the title part of a song?? lol After party away! If that's what you and your friends do then they will love it!
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Almost Mrs. White · on July 1, 2013 at 12:13 PM
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Kinda doing the same thing. If we plan to have a dry or beer & wine reception then we're definately doing an after party. FH is still unsure about the whole DIY wedding/reception, SMH...
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Almost Mrs. White · on July 1, 2013 at 12:16 PM
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@Mrs. Hawkins I like the sound of that. I may have to steal that idea from you as far as just making the reception more like a dinner & then have an after party w/alcohol. It sounds sooo much better put into those terms! Thanks!
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Jamie Q. · on July 1, 2013 at 12:26 PM
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I love the idea- we did a bonfire afterparty. It was a huge hit! The guests all loved having more time to hang out (our reception only went til 9:30) and we stayed there til around 2am! It was BYOB and there was more than enough to go around! Some people rolled out kegs lol. I strongly recommend it, and agree with PP, make sure there isnt a cover charge and that the place is known before hand. The only other wedding I ever went to that had a separate after party (not just in the hotel bar or something) was so badly planned. We all knew they were having one but no one knew where or when to go there. I ended up getting sick from their food, so we couldnt go but at the end of the reception, people still didnt know where to go! Chaos... lol
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BoatBride2014 · on July 1, 2013 at 1:51 PM
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We plan to do the same thing. Mainly because our reception boat only holds 250 for a seated dinner and docks at 11pm. Also with my FH working in club promotions the guest list would be over 1000 and I'm not having that. So for all of the friends and what not we are having the after-party at a club.

Speaking of cover charge, I think I will come up with a small invite or print out. If they bring it, we will cover their door fee.
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