Advice needed asap

I have to say u are a wayyyyy bigger person than I am. Some of these comments that people are leaving are not only rude, but ignorant and disrespectful..... There is no Manuel on how u have to do your wedding. People have destination weddings and people have to pay for airfare or hotel or food depending on how long they stay. People have weddings with no reception. Maybe breakfast or brunch the next day( that they pay for). So No You are not wrong at the end of the day the most important thing is for u and your love to be married and happy. And if $5 is gonna cause someone to look at you crazy maybe u should question if that person is really as valuable to your life as you think. If it were me I would def pay $5 to come to your wedding especially knowing everything u been through.... You do what is best for you and FH.... no one else opinion honestly matters.

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This. Honestly, you're already not paying for your guests' reception, and now you're not going to be paying the entrance fee to your ceremony? I'm sorry you're going through some tough times but I don't think that excuses treating your guests poorly. You really should rethink your priorities. If you have a ceremony and invite guests, you need to host them afterwards with some sort of food and drink appropriate to the time of day. Transportation and lodging costs are the responsibility of the guests, but entrance fees need to be paid for by the hosts (i.e. you).

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your input, but my priorities have always been for others always. I have made more sacrifices then most can even imagine humanly possible. I asked for positive advice on wording. So thank you for helping to make me feel worse about a situation that I was thrust into. Have a great weekend!

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Doing good stuff in other circumstances doesn't make it okay to do something inappropriate now. Again, I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. You clearly can't afford the event you're planning, since you were already foisting the cost of your reception off on your guests, so rather than adding this additional stress to it, why not either cancel your plans and elope, postpone the wedding or have a later celebration, or cancel your honeymoon (for now) and use that money to host your guests properly?

As of this afternoon my brother informed me due to my parents estate affairs becoming finalized, meaning the fees are taken care of. I was my parents care giver for 15 years mom Alzheimer's diagnosed at 48 passed at 63. Dad congestive heart failure they passed Jan 2016. I don't make excuses, my FH and I have paid for and purchased everything for our wedding party ourselves. So thank you again for your input. Have a great weekend.