Advice needed asap

Thank you so much! 😔😌I am already stressed and it is breaking my heart to even open up at all bc we are private people. But it's been a roller coaster these last few months. April car wreck out of work for a month, June black mold, move July, and wedding in Aug.

View Quoted Comment I am getting married on the beach but the ceremony is in the state park beach. I'm from NC and that is what I was told because the shelter was reserved by the minister in case it rains. I went through Myrtle Beach wedding packages.

View Quoted Comment Im not sure what all 'Myrtle Beach Wedding Packages' entails. But, I'm assuming its kind of like a wedding planner.

I just googled it and its free to use the beach without a reservation. It sounds like the only thing the reservation allows you is to have the right to make other guests on the beach move away from your ceremony spot. I personally wouldn't worry about that. Most people, when they see you are setting up for a ceremony are going to move.


You could try having the ceremony on a spot on the beach that doesn't charge you.

I found a ton of helpful info on this website
https://www.visitmyrtlebeach.com/things-to-do/weddings-honeymoons/know-the-rules/

It is the city of myrtle beach site. They even have a list of areas on there for you to know which sections of the beach are free.

After reading most of it, it also sounds like the reason that your having to have the wedding in the park with the fee is solely because your going through 'Myrtle Beach Wedding Packages'. On the site above it says for 'Commercial'weddings (a planner or company) there is a mandatory that a shelter be rented. You say the shelter is already booked. Therefore the company your using is the reason you have to use a different area. Just look at the site and make some calls. If im reading correctly, you can call and set things up yourself without this 'Myrtle beach weddings'.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for that info! 😁. I'd hate to tell them there is a fee. I haven't even sent the reminder bc of this. My FH now understands my stress. Due to him saying we would cover the fees. So thank you for the update research 😊

View Quoted Comment Myrtle Beach weddings *Officiant, location, arbor/decorations, license signed and filing at courthouse, photographer.*

View Quoted Comment Same here. It's not the advice that OP asked for. Not helpful or useful.

I like your wording and I think OP should go with this.

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😊

I’m sorry you’re going through all of this. Did you say it was per person or per car?

View Quoted Comment Per person , in SC state park up here in NC its per car so it's totally different and wierd but that's what it is.

Has that mold been tested? Just because of the color doesn't mean it's toxic. It needs a kit test or professional to test. Your landlord is responsible for removal and testing and possibly rehousing or temporary housing fees. Get it properly investigated before making any rash decisions if it's a matter of cleaning and repair.

View Quoted Comment So approximately how many people? 60? So around $300.00 total?

View Quoted Comment Your welcome!

Is there a way to message privately on this app? I would like to help a little if I can

View Quoted Comment We went to the Drs. Had the blood work done and they put both of us on meds and the health department tested it as well as the apartment manager sent someone over to get samples, and had it scraped, killz was applied and repainted, Then last week we get the call that we will be needing to move on the 3rd of July bc that's when they will have a new apartment ready. They brought in a air purifierto use until then.

Are ya'll talented with anything? Could you do a couple friends' hair or nails for like $20 each? Could you bake/cook and sell those somewhere? Maybe your FH could help some buddies out by mowing their lawn or helping move?

I guess you could also look into blood donation or something along those lines. If none of that seems like an option, then just be honest. I'd probably word things like this:

"We request that you please bring $5.00 for your beach pass". It's not the end of the world to pay $5.00, and your guests who were already okay with paying the other expenses probably won't think twice about it.

I apologize for some of the judgmental comments you've seen here and will pray for your circumstances

I don't think $5 is that big of a deal. Things happen that can not be forseen. I think you should just reach out to all your guest maybe you don't have to go into full details but I think I would give them a little something. Thank them for wanting to be apart of your special, acknowledge you know they are already spending money to get their rooms ( which is their responsibility anyway, and you left the option for dinner open so they can choose) but just let them know due to an unexpected situation you and FH has to move very quickly for health reason, and you were going to pay for everyones entry to the park, however, you have to request everyone pays the $5 entry fee due to funding issues. These are your family and friends, they should understand and you never know someone may want to step up and say hey we want to help.

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You can inbox her. click on her picture and then select send a message. It will be private

I’m not cheap, but if I was invited as a GUEST to someone’s wedding or any kind of event. I would not expect to pay anything. I would not go, and I would lose respect for you also. Don’t want to be mean, just being honest.
Don’t throw a wedding you are unable to afford.
Maybe move the wedding to a local park or something. so it’s free for your guests, and you would only have to pay a small fee.

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Agree with this. Unfortunately I think feeding your guests and paying for their entrance fee to the park is more important than a honeymoon. I know it's not ideal and I'm sorry you are in this situation. However, if postponing the wedding is not an option (totally get that!), then you need to remove the honeymoon to pay for people's food and entrance fee, or do what PP's have stated like get a job like Uber to help cover the costs. Unfortunately there is no proper wording to send out to guests that they need to pay to go to your wedding and to eat. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!