Skip to main content
ARE YOU A VENDOR?

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Christie
Savvy August 2019

Advice needed asap

Christie, on June 20, 2019 at 5:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 45
Saved
Reply
Hi, I need some advice ASAP. Please positivity only, I already feel horrible for having to ask.
Due to black mold being found in our current apartment we are having to do an emergency move on July 3rd and I have asthma. Our wedding is Aug 17 and it's in Myrtle Beach. With that being said our guests are already paying for their own rooms and buffet dinner. We (FH & I) were originally going to pay for the wrist band entry to the state park which is where the wedding is. How should I word the emails to let them know they will have to pay the $5.00 per adult park fee, without sounding petty or cheap bc we just don't have it anymore. All moneies are due for the reservations July 16, I already feel very low so please be kind.

Advice needed asap 1

45 Comments

Latest activity by Christie, on June 22, 2019 at 12:53 AM
  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Did you let them know on the invites that you would cover the park fee? How many guests do you have?

    • Reply
  • MrsJohansson
    Expert June 2019
    MrsJohansson ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Wow this sucks; sorry to read. Must be a lot to deal with right now. I am sure you are feeling really bad, try to focus less on how it sounds and more on the solution.. everyone struggles sometimes and there needs to be less shaming surrounding money and who does this or provides that.

    Have you talked to any close family about this? If family can't help out and you have no choice, just be honest but brief when explaining that there is now a $5 fee per adult. $5 isn't a lot, it sucks that things have changed but the people who are coming should be able to empathize and understand.

    • Reply
  • M
    VIP December 2019
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    $5 isn't a lot but they're already paying for their own dinner and they shouldn't have to. You need to figure it out or postpone the wedding until you can save up to host properly. You don't need alcohol and all the favors etc. but you need to be feeding your guest. If I was a guest I wouldn't mind the fee if I didn't have to pay for my own food. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope it works out for you. How may adults are you having? And is it $5 per adult or $5 per car?????

    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    No I just said we would be handing out the wrist bands before going to the wedding site which is in the state park.😔
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you, I did speak with his Mom and she said to not tell the why but the this is the entry fee per adult.
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    $5.00 per adult in SC per car in NC we are not doing a reception we are going to a buffet restaurant. All who wants to eat with us are more then welcome to come if not enjoy the beach is what I put on the invitations. We are only having a 30 min ceremony on the beach. Total adults ( including singles, couples, wedding party, and us ) is 60
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I might postpone it. It sounds like you have a lot going on and you should probably focus on your health and your living situation before a wedding.
    If you really don't want to postpone it you'd have to call everyone and tell them you had an emergency and there's a $5/person to enter the park for the wedding.
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you, postponing is not an option.
    • Reply
  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Can you have a yard sell? Or work some OT? Or maybe some family can help you out?? I don’t think is fair for guests to have to pay to “enter” your ceremony...
    • Reply
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Postponing until a wedding better fits your budget really sounds like the best option.
    • Reply
  • Gabriela
    Dedicated November 2020
    Gabriela ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    If you have a credit card, is there a chance you guys can put it on there? If anything postponing the wedding might be easier since the guests are already paying for other things.
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    We have paid for the wedding itself, the honeymoon, my clothes his clothes, all of the wedding party's clothes, all flowers, all wedding party gifts, gifts for all the guests, and it was an open invitation to the guests to come to the buffet restaurant if they chose. It is 60 people we were going to pay for. All I asked was for wording not postponing. We have not asked for help with any other monies. If they only wanted to come for the ceremony and hang at the beach itself that was fine. It's only a 30 min ceremony. But thank you for your input.😔
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    There is nothing to sell. We were not expecting to have to move we have been thrust into this situation. We are a blended family and in April I was in a bad car accident that put me out of work for a month. So having to move was never a thought. Black mold was found in the apartment. Wedding itself, honeymoon, and all clothes including wedding party's. We did that ourselves. We were trying to get a head count for the final tally and this happened to us.
    • Reply
  • needmorewine
    Expert May 2016
    needmorewine ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Can you cancel the honeymoon and get a refund? Paying for the park entrance fees and dinner for your guests is more important than a honeymoon, and even more important if they are having to travel to attend the wedding.

    If that isn't possible, try driving for Uber, Lyft, Doordash, etc. for extra money to cover the costs.

    If you can't or won't do any of those things, then I agree with PP that postponing until you are in a better financial position to be able to fully host the wedding would be the best option. Either that, or eloping.

    There is no good wording to inform guests they will have to pay a fee to attend the wedding because that really isn't an acceptable thing to ask of them.

    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you for your input. 😔
    • Reply
  • Monique
    Devoted August 2020
    Monique ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    $5 per person isn't much to spend time at the beach, so I'm sure your guests will be understanding. Plus it's not like someone is going to cancel due to an extra $5 fee
    • Reply
  • Christie
    Savvy August 2019
    Christie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you so much! 😔😌
    • Reply
  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I cant believe people are telling you to postpone your wedding. From what you already said, you have already everything planned and are looking for wording. I guess i would say something along the lines "just wanted to let guests know the park fee is $5 and is due by × date"
    • Reply
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I live in SC and go to Myrtle beach a few times a year. If your getting married on the beach, then why is anyone having to pay anything? Ive never heard of this having to pay per person on any beach. If Im understanding correctly, your ceremony is on the beach? All you should have to do is call the city and, if they have one, pay the small fee to use the beach for your ceremony time. This is normally pretty cheap, like $30.
    Some beaches even do it for free.
    • Reply
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Yes, i forgot to actually answer your question in my comment, but this ^^^^ seems fine to me.
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

Show more

WeddingWire article topics