Ladies! I need some help...
My fiancé and I have finally narrowed down our guest list -- phew! However, one thing still needs to be addressed: adults-only vs. not. Now, here's the situation:
Many of our cousins and friends have babies 3 years old and under. We don't want 15+ crying babies during our wedding ceremony and we don't want our reception to feel like a daycare center. With that said, we've been leaning towards an adult-only wedding. However, I'd like to make an exception for my cousin's daughter.
My cousin and I are very close. He actually lived with me and my family for several years after getting out of the military due to the fact that my aunt (his mom/my mom's sister) had moved into a 60+ living community. Because of this, he and my mom also became extremely close. To keep it simple, my cousin is like an older brother to me and another son to my mom.
Now, my cousin's family (his wife, 19-year-old daughter, and 10-year-old daughter) and my aunt live out-of-state. They're the only family remaining on my mom's side of the family. My mom is afraid that if I make the wedding 'adults-only' that he will not come, and if he doesn't come then my aunt (my mom's sister) will also not come because she doesn't like to fly alone (she gets anxious/has panic attacks).
While my fiancé and I are paying for the bulk of our wedding, my mom is helping to contribute financially. I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings or my cousin's. My mom made the suggestion to have his 10-year-old as the flower girl, but my fiancé and I have mixed feelings about that. We're also not sure about the wording on our invitations/website if we do make an exception.
Thoughts?! Suggestions?!
Also, if anyone was in a similar situation and you made an exception or two, was there drama at the wedding because of it?
