Addressing same sex couple invitations?

I asked this same exact question last week! Someone else mentioned I would do it like this:

First Last-Last

First Last-Last

Address

I followed this format, but added "and Girls" after the second name since their daughters are my flower girls. I guess it would have been better to go in alphabetical order, but I put my cousin's name first out of habit. I searched all through my etiquette book, and Emily Post did not prepare me for this either.

I think I will ask them to clarify before I send the formal invitation. I have a feeling it may vary depending on the couple.

I have friends who got married a few years ago (same sex marriage). In my world, they have always been R & C (with their own last names. So, when we invited them to my daughters wedding the invitation was addressed:

Mr. R (last name)

Mr. C (last name)

The Mrs. Jane and Joan Lastname. Married couples get their name on one line.

If they are a committed couple I would address it the same way you I would address it the same way you would address a married couple with different last names. We have a few very committed same sex couples on our guest list and this is how we are doing it:

Ms. Jane Smith and Ms. Sarah Jones

This is how I've seen it on etiquette websites. The other way is the convention for non-married co-habitating couples or roommates - which may be offensive since it signifies less commitment. I mean, the reality is most people probably don't know the conventions one way or another, but I think it is important to recognize their commitment by addressing them the way you would other committed (i.e. married - in our society) couples.

Oh, but they should be alphabetical, like theluckiest said, I just typed whatever names I thought of.

This link has Miss Manners suggestion:

http://www.chron.com/life/article/Miss-Manners-Addressing-invitations-to-married-1643353.php

What about The "Smith" family...can u do that on invites??

If they both have the same last name, then just do them like any other married couple: "the Mrs. Smith," or maybe "Mrs. and Mrs. Jane and Joan Smith"

This is a subject about which I know something. ;-) If they have the same last name:

The Mesdames Sally and Betty Jones

If they have different last names:

Ms. (or Mrs.) Sally Jones and Ms. (or Mrs.) Betty Smith

Having the "and" between them and putting them both on the same line indicates that they are married. An unmarried couple would be:

Ms. Sally Jones

Ms. Betty Smith

The exact same as you word non-same sex marriage

If you are wording theirs Mr and Mrs last name, word this couples Mrs and Mrs last name, if you are wording the others Mrs Jackie Smith and Mr Scott Smith word this the same. Keep it the same as everyone else.

And how is the wording for married couple with different last names.

Thanks so much ladies! I am old fashion southern and addressing couples invites as Mr & Mrs John Smith, using the mans name. So I didn't want to offend and use only one name on the invite! I think I will go with Mrs. Jane & Mrs Sally Smith.

You could also address them : Jane & Sally Smith

Married with different last names is

Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe.

Unmarried with different last names is

Mrs. Jane Smith

Mr. John Doe

although if the couple is in a long-term, committed relationship, it is acceptable to put them on the same line.