Addressing - only one envelope?

The woman's name goes first, and families should be addressed as follows:

Mrs. and Mr. Smith

ChildOne Smith, ChildTwo Smith, and ChildThree Smith

What?

I'm fairly certain the woman's name does NOT go first.

Here's what Emily Post has to say on the matter (etiquette):

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-invitations-and-announcements/339-addressing-sending-wedding-invitations

Even your Emily Post post says woman first.

No, Mr and Mrs for married, I'm not sure what the other ladies are reading.

The ladies name goes 1st if unmarried

It's Mr. and Mrs. John Smith if married and the woman has his last name.

If it's a couple who lives together (unmarried or married with different last names):

Ms. Jane Doe

Mr. John Smith

If it's a male friend who you're inviting with his girlfriend (whom he doesn't live with):

Mr. John Smith

Ms. Jane Doe

(This also helps out if they break up and you're only friends with one half of the couple; the significant other doesn't have their own invitation).

When you don't use titles, the woman's name comes first. With a married couple, it would be:

Jane and John Smith

The rule is that the man is never separated from his last name.

Thanks ladies...

So chicks first... .how about the families...?

Also, I am using the guest list on this site, but am noticing that I cannot add more than one line for names. Any suggestions on how to do unmarried couples? Should I put them all on the same line?

I should clarify... when I am in the reception section there is a place for the inner and outer envelopes, but since we are only doing one, I did the outer (hope that makes sense).

I'm bucking tradition. Couples with children are going on as The Smith Family. Couples with the same last name are going on as Mr. Al and Mrs. Amy Smith. If it were me, I want my name on the envelope too. Just because I'm getting married, my first name isn't changing to his. Now for the grandparents, I may just do Mr and Mrs Joe Smith since thats what they are used to. I think it all depends on your beliefs, social circle and such.

Psh, I make up my own rules lol. On my (one) envelope i did like this:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Joe and Ann Smith (for kids)

Mr. John Smith (if I've known Mr. longer, otherwise Ms. on first line)

Ms. Jane Doe

Ms. Jane Doe

and guest

We did this:

Married couple same name- (husband first)

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (though I wish I did Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith)

Married couple different name-

Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe ("and" indicates marriage, woman first)

Not married couples- (separate lines, woman first)

Ms. Jane Smith

Mr. John Doe

For children, I added the kids first names under the parents, ex:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Susie, Robert, and Kyle

I think it's fine to also list it as "The Smith Family"

ETA: Found an error

BTW, as a married woman who did not change my name, I would prefer our names to be linked with an "and" - Martha Stewart also says this:

"If a wife has kept her maiden name, her name should appear first and be joined with her husband's using "and."

http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/228650/addressing-and-mailing-your-wedding-invitations/@center/272440/wedding-etiquette-adviser#105817

Only mentioning this as some guidelines say to list married couples with different names on different lines. My two cents

Sounds good... I have always done things my way anyway.

Since I cannot add a second line for names, they will on be on one line - "and they will like it"

Thanks again!