A rant ugh why can't he just pick groomsMEN!?

Never heard of a man wanting a groomswoman. Can you not compromise with him and put her as one of your maids?

Well, he was just one of those guys who had more girls that were friends versus guys. Not sure why....probably got along better w/ them I suppose.

I would be I've got my sister, my cousin, my bff from hs, and my other two bffs. Kinda a full side for me.

It's just odd and people will def be like 'why are there girls on his side'....for awhile he was going to call his Best Matron, some other name and I really thought to myself...i'm your bff now, you're marrying me....i can't recall but it was a title that literally pulled on my heart.

So his female friends are going to throw him a bachelor party? To be honest, I would have cut back my BMs, to eliminate his female friends. I'm not a jealous person, but who want the gossiping that WILL happen when the rest of the wedding guests see the WP.

Yeah no people will talk. That's a tough one, maybe go out with his selected women and get a feel for them and see what they are like. If you don't like them then you can have a good chat with him.

They are great girls... Super sweet. Just it's awkward for me personally and it makes our bridal party jacked.

What does it matter if they are his closest friends? What's he supposed to do, pick men who he's just acquaintances with so people won't "gossip" that there are women on the groom's side? When you two look at your wedding photo album on your 10th, 20th, 40th wedding anniversary, would you rather it go like: Hey Mr Schmidt, we looked great that day, what was this guy's name again? Well Mrs Schmidt I think it was Blah or something?

OR

Hey Mr Schmidt, that was a great day, we both look so happy. Yes, Mrs Schmidt, we do, and there are our friends, Lisa, Bob, Jane, Penny and Amanda! I'm so glad they could be up there with us on that day.

Really, people are all about how it's ok for brides to have bridesmen, but would "talk" if a groom had his female friends up there? No. Your bridal party isn't "jacked."

Well April, this is sound advice and I acknowledge it. It's a very minscule issue that probably will be way overlooked as time moves us forward. Thank you.

My FH is like that too! Always had better friends with girls than girls. We have two on each side though. He has a best man and grooms woman. Woohoo for being different!

I've seen women on the man's side all the time. If people know him, and know who his friends are, there won't be any gossip. And he's marrying YOU, not them. So no need to worry about what they look like.

I'd be okay with the girls in the wedding party thing, but not the girl he used to have a crush on or whatever. That wouldn't fly.

It was an insecure moment too true. I'm sure it won't matter on the day.....i'm slightly a little possesive right now...we've had our trials....it's just a lot of girls to accomodate. hopefully noone (mostly me) is on their monthly by that time.lol

I dont think you should worry about it...like Halloweenbride said he is marrying YOU...its a little odd but some men are bff with women..my FH closests friend is also a very attractive girl and they never had anything with each other they've known each other since they were in elementary school...but hes not picking her as his Bestman LOL thank GOD! LOL Good luck

My FH is going to be a GM in a wedding this fall who has a "Best Matron". It's been kind of weird, she is organizing the Bach party, the groom wants to do camping, so thats what they are doing. But then she wants them to go on a wine tour after...like really, do you think all these men want to do a wine tour??? Women just shouldn't throw bach parties!

If you keep the girls on his side in the same color as the men it will be instantly obvious they are groomswomen and not weird at all. I have seen it many times. Blend those ladies in as best you can! If the guys wear black suits, put them in black dresses and black shoes. ;-)

FH and I both have a guy and a girl on our sides. I have a Man of Honour, and he's got a Best Lady. I did originally ask her to be a bridesmaid, but FBIL is in the Navy and wasn't going to be at the wedding, let alone in it. We were facing an uneven number of people on each side, so we swapped her (she was FH's friend first anyway, even if she's one of my best friends now too.) One of my best friends is a guy! He's met FH and we've all hung out together, but he's ultimately my friend more than FH's. It didn't make sense to ask him to be a groomsman.

You can have the girls on your FH's side wear a different colour and even a different style of dress (if you're already doing matching dresses). Our girls are wearing the same dress (they both picked it!) but they will be in different colours. My Man of Honour will wear the same color as my bridesmaid, and viceversa on the groom's side.

Like April said, who cares as long as they're his closest friends?