A little offended...

Lazy.....I think if you did have an FB though it wouldn't have happened. I expect the bride was the one who did the invites and since she isn't your FH's childhood friend she probably didn't know how long you'd been together even if her FH did. But they were definitely lazy for not double checking. I would be hurt too but it might've just been a mistake. Just let it go and learn from it for yourself and teach others.

Definitely rude... but try and brush it off and enjoy the wedding! I recently got invited to two weddings that my FH wasn't even invited to (not even as my guest) and at that point we had been together over 3 years lol. People are just inconsiderate.

I did this on my STDs prior to joining WW, realized the error of my ways by the time invites came around. I did it to a groomsman who has a girlfriend for over a year. My logic was if something happened and they broke up, he'd still get a plus 1. So I put and guest on STD to let him know he can bring anyone.

I addressed by name on the invites but that was my not really thinking, prior to WW logic.

Definitely rude! Something similar happened to me. One of FH's COUSIN's sent a STD and it was only addressed to HIM. We've been engaged almost a year AND we live together. LOL.

@justplaincat???? That's infuriating!!!

I was a guest for a cousin's too after being together 5+ years, living together for a year (he moved into my house). It's now a running joke among FH siblings. Taught me to pay attention to how I addressed invites.

It's a bit tacky. A simple text to confirm your name would have been nice. It would be different if you were a girlfriend of 2 weeks, I get it but enough rapport has been built that they could've gotten your name prior to sending the invite.

I'd be offended and annoyed too! I'd write your full name on the RSVP so your escort card doesn't say guest too! Very lazy on their part, we had to reach out to a few people for SO names, it's not that difficult!

I'd be offended as well! I just got one from FH cousin who I've never met, but stil addressed as "guest" after 6 years, and almost a year of being engaged.

This is so rude! FH and I were invited to a 25th anniversary party, and they sent it to him and Guest. I attended their daughter's wedding, am friends with both of them on Facebook, and FH and i have been together for six years. I am still holding the grudge.

I did this to a social unit invited to my wedding only because they are young and consistently "taking a break". I didn't know what the status of their relationship would have been by that time. Turned out that after RSVPing yes for both, they ended up breaking up and he came alone. I didn't think I was in the wrong by addressing the invite in that way but in your case that a weird and I would feel insulted too. I would put my Initials and guest!

I 100% agree -- I think it's rude and inconsiderate. My brothers wedding (yes BROTHER) they invited and guest and when I rsvp'ed I put his names spelling on it (we were also already engaged at this point and have been together 5.5 years) and my brothers FMIL kept saying "oh youre Stephannie's "and guest" LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK NO.

I get why you're offended and I would be too. It's like they thought your FH has a mistress he'd like to bring or something.

I'd be offended as well... I had something similar happen recently, a co worker that is getting married sent me an invite, we've known each other a few years and have hung out a few times outside of work with her fiance and mine. When I got their invite, it wasn't even to me and guest, it was just to me. They both know FH's name, but didn't include him. I called her to thank her and kind of subtly ask if FH wasn't included, but before I could, she mentioned that they both so wanted me and FH there. I had to respond, oh, good so he is invited, I didn't know since his name wasn't on the invite. She told me she had her FH set up and address them - she threw her FH under the bus for the etiquette faux pas... Sadly, I know her handwriting - BUSTED!

This was done to me as well, but it didn't offend me , because they were friends with my fiance not me. I would rather them put me as a guest, then spell my name wrong, or call me a different name.

....I would be petty and address them both as 'guest' on your invite to them. Totally unacceptable.

This happened to my FH. Long time friend of mine invited me by name and "guest". He laughed it off but I was pissed. We had been together for 6 years, living together for 4 of those. I rsvp'd both our names and she still made his place card "guest". She does not like him, which she has made clear since we started dating over 10 yrs ago. So I definitely feel she addressed her invite purposefully. It's been a few years and I'm still hurt she did that.

This literally just happened to me! Except it was only addressed to FH. The groom told FH to tell me I was invited he just didn't know my name..go figure they included a cute poem about a honey fund and are "spreading the word" about their cash bar.

We have a guest list of 216, and I researched every single guest to make sure I knew their relationship situation and the same of their SO. The only people who got "and guest" were truly (confirmed) single. I would be pissed too.

I think it does make a difference, and yes, I do think you have the right to feel slighted. I doubt it was anything malicious; it was probably due to laziness (maybe she was writing out the invitations, kept asking him to get the correct spelling of your name, he said he'd do it, he never did, and she failed by taking the easy "and guest route" as opposed to exerting a little effort and contacting your FH directly to ask for that information) .

What I wouldn't want to see is this offense repeated twice, and you would probably feel the sting again if you walked in and saw an escort card that said, "Mr. FH and Guest/Table 7". Both of your names belong on that escort card. I would add a handwritten "Mr. FH and Ms. Anderson" to the RSVP (right under the "2 Seats Have Been Reserved in Your Honor" line, and I'd also add both of your names in the top left hand corner of the return envelope.

If they blow it after that, deduct $50 from the cash envelope. No, wait! I'm kidding...am I? Even I don't know, lol.