A little offended...

Lazy planning and no attention to detail. At least it wasn't your cousin. I'm still pissed.

That sucks, they should have waited to send the invite to ask, or just ask him themselves what your name was...

LMAO!

It's okay to feel offended - I did as well when it happened to me. I'm sure these same people are shocked that I used their full names when I addressed their SOs. Don't let it bother you too much.

I'm still laughing at putting "and guest" for the food choice! lmfao

This happened to me with one of FH's friends. And even on the seating chart, after FH had written my name out on the RSVP, they still put "FH & Guest." I wasn't as close to them as FH either and had also only met them a couple times, but I was still a little hurt by it.

I wouldn't get upset over something like this. Is it weird? Yes. But it was likely an oversight, not an intentional snub. Just write your name in the write in and give initials for the entrée. No big deal.

People are lazy...and since you don't have a FB it's harder.

Yeah sorry but that's rude. If they have met you and know that you exist they should have taken the time to find out your name, although they should already know it.

We addressed an invite to my FH's friend & guest because we had no idea that he had a girlfriend. I felt bad when I found out that he did. Every one of our single guests got a plus one but anyone in a relationship was addressed by both names, even if we had to facebook stalk or ask their SO to figure it out.

Im not going to lie i made the same mistake with one of my friends. I didnt notice until the invitations went out. I called her and apologized right away and asked her for her boyfriends name so that his name is actually on the place cards instead of just jane doe and guest. Poor planning for sure but I didnt do that maliciously to my friend. Sometimes it happens.. but atleast i called her and apologized she wasnt mad about it at all.

Note to all asking if one half of a social unit needs a "plus one/guest".

I'd be irritated too, OP.

You're right, it's definitely rude and thoughtless on their part. Half of a long-term couple should never be addressed as a "guest". Write your name on the RSVP card (there must be a line for names?) and initial your entree choice. Let's hope they have the courtesy to put your actual name on the seating chart / escort card.

You're not wrong to feel slighted. If you know that a guest has a SO, but you are unsure of his or her name, you reach out and ask, "Hey, what's your fiance's name so we can put it on the invitation?" It's not a big deal to ask.

That happened to me recently and my table card said and guest too, it is rude!

You were at their engagement party and they still don't know your name?? I would definitely be offended.

Ugh, that's really annoying. It wouldn't have been difficult to get your name. When we received an invitation to FH's cousin's wedding last year, it was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. "FH's last name." Ummm... we're not married, and you know that.

ETA: And then at the wedding, I was just listed in the seating chart as "guest." His cousin and FH were FB friends, and our relationship status is on there, so it's not like it would have been difficult to figure out.

It's ignorant. I've been there. I was the "and guest" after the bride made this comment: "I just can't believe that you guys have been together 3 times as long as us and we're getting married and you're not."

Rude AF. I'd put "and guest" next to your meal choice lol.

Definitely not something to ruffle any feathers about but I completely understand your frustration. Definitely lack of detail on her part, she should have asked her FH to get your full name.

That's terrible. It happened to me when I was married previously! My ex is from a large Italian family and the wedding was a distant cousin. After receiving the 'and guest' invitation to the wedding I later received a shower invitation for this girl........... So - you knew who I was to invite me to the shower but I'm 'and guest' - so weird.

Ok, I'm glad I am not crazy for feeling a little slighted. I can't believe some of these stories...yikes!

I would write my name in big letters somewhere on the RSVP lol