A friend just set her wedding date...the same day as mine...

Thanks you EVERYONE for all of your helpful input and advice. And crisis averted! We talked yesterday, and as many suspected, she had NOT booked the date (she is actually still very VERY early in planning, doesn't have a venue yet, she too hated the idea of our friends picking between us, and she said they're actually leaning toward a different month). Phew! We laughed about it, and tomorrow we are getting drinks to celebrate this happy time for both of us. This forum really was a great outlet to get advice this week, as I waited with a knot in my stomach. Thank you all! XO

Phew!!! Thank goodness all worked out!!! Glad you and your friend can enjoy your happy times together now!!!!

That's great news! I am so glad it all worked out

YAY!

There is a possibility that I might have a similar situation. My FH and I got engaged in November. Just a few weeks ago, my grandma told me that my aunt (crazy drama aunt) called her asking when my wedding was because her daughter might be getting married next year in May. First of all, her daughter/my cousin has A LOT of problems. She is very bipolar with crazy ups and downs and has always jumped from bf to bf, so most likely if they are "engaged" the wedding will probably not happen. But anyway, so my aunt is asking my grandma when my wedding is. My grandma got pissed!! haha. She flat out told me aunt that if she dares to plan her daughters weekend the same day as mine, or even the same weekend, that she would NOT come. My grandma told me that apparently this same aunt has done with before, scheduling things on days that my grandma specifically told her not too. If she scheduled the wedding the same day as mine, it will be quite a strain on the family choosing whose wedding to go to. Mostly likely it would be mine because my aunt, cousin, and rest of the family have always been the ones to cause trouble. And I planned mine first..

I know this doesn't help you, but good luck with your situation! Fingers crossed it doesn't happen to me too!

EDIT: Just saw your update! Glad it all worked out!

This same exact thing happened to me except it was one of FH's friends who set their date on ours atfer ASKING what date ours was so they didn't have it on the same day. They said they had no other date that would work for them...Seriously? We aren't THAT close, but we have plenty of mutual friends who now have to choose which wedding to go to...That's why I just sent out our STD's ASAP, so they would know about ours first. Sadly we don't even talk to this couple anymore becuase of this. Not because we're being mean, but we would never plan our wedding on the same day for the simple fact that we're friends and obviously we would want them to spend our day with us and vice versa, but we're just not that important to them it seems.

Just read your comment! I'm so happy for you!

I think this is the first time I've ever agreed 100% with what Emily has suggested.

Holy shit. LMAO