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Lucy
Savvy August 2021

a Christian and an atheist

Lucy, on June 19, 2020 at 9:34 AM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 46

Hi everybody! So, they say you should pick a life partner who has the same values as you, and one of those values is faith/belief. But I'm a religious girl who has fallen in love with an atheist! We're both very understanding of each others' different takes on the world, both believing (or not...

Hi everybody! So, they say you should pick a life partner who has the same values as you, and one of those values is faith/belief. But I'm a religious girl who has fallen in love with an atheist! We're both very understanding of each others' different takes on the world, both believing (or not believing) in a way that we think makes us good people and makes life easier to handle! But even though it's not usually an issue in our relationship, it obviously becomes an issue in a wedding service.

My fiancé is happy for us to get married in a church if the service isn't overbearingly religious. But I don't know how possible that will be? I actually feel the same way. I'd hate to be worried during the service because I think he's feeling uncomfortable, even if he's putting on a brave face for me.

Has anybody else gone through this kind of problem?

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  • Lucy
    Savvy August 2021
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    Yes exactly. I think I just have to be patient!

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  • Lucy
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thanks for the suggestion. x

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  • Lucy
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thank you. Reading all these comments has just reminded me that there is no issue I'm going through that hasn't already been tackled by somebody else before!

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  • Lucy
    Savvy August 2021
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    I'm so afraid of being told off!! Which is absurd... But that's the case. I don't want to sit down with a vicar and them be like "why on earth would we let you get married in a church when your partner thinks God and religion is a load of crock?!"

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  • Lucy
    Savvy August 2021
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    Thanks everybody for your insight last week. So many reassuring comments and I really appreciated it.

    Myself and 2 other engaged friends have actually just launched the first few episodes of a podcast that covers these kind of tricky wedding issues: it's called The Thing About That (it's on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts and Spotify) and I would so appreciate you all taking a listen and letting me know what you think.

    I'd love feedback as to what else you would love to hear discussed. Let me know if you catch it. And thank you again. Smiley heart

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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
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    Whatever you are both comfortable with will work out for the best. We are same too and not making it overly religious but I will most likely read the love verse and have rings blessed. As long as it isn't too lengthy he is ok with it. He grew up forced to attend church and felt like it was too much for him but he is supportive of my wishes too.

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