a Christian and an atheist

I’m not religious but I guess I’m spiritual? I’m agnostic probably. We are getting married by a minister but we talked to her about leaving out Jesus lol making it not like a Christian service since fiancé’s side is Buddhist and I want it to be inclusive. Just make it more about love, union, energy, and you should be good. It might be a good compromise to hav a person of God marry you both but make it less churchy. If that makes sense.

I practice Buddhism and my FH is pretty much agnostic. He suggested that we integrate Buddhist traditions so we sat down together after taking some suggestions from my priest and doing some research and found a meditation and a prayer that we both like.
I suggest you do something similar.

Hey Lucy!
I've never had this problem, but I think you can definitely have a church wedding without it being overly religious feeling.

He knows your beliefs and will be ok with God being mentioned a few times in your blessings, since you will be in God's house after all
I would trust your fiancee to let you know, if he's uncomfortable with any aspect of the service once you have it planned out. If he doesn't say he's uncomfortable, believe it and enjoy your day.It will be fine.Perhaps the feeling one gets when being in a church at that moment in time, will touch his heart.
Some don't believe what they can't see or feel. Just in this matter agree to disagree, God will understand. Trust your faith to show you the way. Your love may be the bridge to his acceptance that there is more to our existence than he originally thought, you never know. That may have been Gods plan all along.
Don't worry! It will be ok! Congratulations! Hugs to you! ❤

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Are you getting married in a church though? Thanks for the reply!

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I guess whatever religion, if you find the right priest / vicar / etc. they should be understanding of trying to bring everything together. It's only really the damaging side of religion that would be dogmatic about it and ostracise a couple for not both being spiritual.

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Thanks for your very sweet message.

View Quoted Comment Sorry, no. We are outside of the venue since they hVe a court garden. Does it have to be in a church? If so, maybe just talk to the person marrying you cans compromise. If not, I’m sure your fiancé would understand if he knew what to expect.

View Quoted Comment You are most welcome! It will all be ok, I promise!

I’m Christian and so is my husband but we didn’t want our ceremony to be overwhelmingly religious either so we asked our pastor to keep it simple with a verse from the Bible and a prayer of blessing for us and that’s it aha we didn’t want a sermon about god and love during

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Definitely! Even before we decided to have my priest marry us, he advised that we should make sure we find someone open-minded.

You certainly wouldn’t want someone to be dogmatic and definitely not ostracize you for your differences in beliefs! They should be understanding and accepting, and make recommendations that’ll speak to both you and your FH

It definitely takes some creativity! But you can have a uniquely you wedding ceremony that I’m sure people won’t forget.

What kind of church is it? I think the flexibility of not making it overly religious would depend on the denomination. Catholic Churches usually won’t budge on their traditional ceremony which includes readings from the Bible, while some other denominations might be a little more open to your specific requests. I’d talk with your pastor/officiant and see what exactly the options are at the church you are planning to get married at.

I am Baptist and my fiancé staring getting into church and religion when we got together so our situation is a little different. For you I would just discuss with your minister exactly what you want said/not said and done/not done. If you want any religious passages read or a prayer said just run it by your fiancé (other then that and unity items idk what other religious aspects there are in a wedding).

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There's a tiny church near where I grew up that has a lot of sentimental value for me. And that's ideally where we'd have the wedding.

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That's really reassuring thank you.

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Thanks for the reassurance. Wonderful!

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It is a church of england church, so naturally a bit more lenient.

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I always feel a little scared/embarrassed breaking the news that my fiance is an atheist. Which is absurd, because I'm not going to be told off for it!

First off, Congratulations! I believe the right priest will be able to make the ceremony not overly religious. I think both of you should meet with him/her to go over what you are comfortable with for the ceremony.

You can have a secular service as the base plan for your ceremony and only add a few religious preference items to it. Work with your officiant. They can help you navigate that part.

My FH was raised Catholic and I am more or less agnostic LOL so don't stress about it, different points of view that share mutual respect are beautiful

View Quoted Comment I’m definitely nervous about how my FHs family will react to our ceremony because they are atheist and his mom is Wiccan, so that’s going to be interesting. We’re going to have a prayer during the ceremony, my pastor is going to read a passage we choose, our vows will more then likely have a reference to God, we are doing a unity cross, and there will be a dinner prayer. If people judge him/you for marrying someone is different religious believes, screw them.