A and B guest lists for destination wedding

B lists are looked down upon by WW forum and most people.

Invite 82 people.

B lists are rude and they will find out. I was B listed, figured it out when my uncle got an STD and we didnt, and he got his invitation a month before us. We live together.

No. If your venue can only hold 82 people, then you only invite 82 people.

B listing is incredibly rude - no matter the circumstances.

Nope nope nope nope nope.

Do NOT B-list.

Nopity nope.. The PP hit the nail on the head.

Let them know it's limited seating and maybe do first to RSVP

If you can only host 82 you just invite 82.

Nope don't B list.

And I have no idea what the hell Violet is talking about but don't do that either.

I'm pretty sure no post on WW says its ever okay to B list people

No A/B lists or tiered receptions...I about screamed when FH suggested this

How much of a destination is your wedding? Plane flight? In a different country?

50% of my guest list has to fly at least 1 hour and rent a car to come to my wedding, so there's definitely travel involved - but I literally only heard from 3 guests that they couldn't come after the save the dates. Those 3 people knew they already had another wedding that weekend and let me know which is really nice! The rest of our nos didn't come in until after invites were sent

No, A and B lists are rude. Clearly, B listers are not important enough to be at your wedding. Either find a bigger venue, or cut your guest list to 82 total. Also, I didn't know for sure if id be able to go to my best friends DW until 2 months before, so people don't always know early on.

Violet, I think that's a terrible idea. Family and friends shouldn't have to compete to RSVP first to be able to attend a wedding they're invited to! Unless I am misunderstanding you?

Rude. If people don't make the guest list the first time, they're not "have to have there" people.

Do not b-list people. That is incredibly rude

I didn't think you could get more rude than an A/B list as far as inviting people was concerned, and then @Violet came along and showed me that it was, indeed, possible.

Don't do either of these things. Guests WILL find out, and they'll be horribly offended.

Lol, if my e-party was first to RSVP, the VIPs wouldn't be able to come. People procrastinate.

It's only 13 people less than your intended invite list. I think you can find a way to cut 13 people.

First come, first served? I'm sorry @Violet, but are you joking? Your wedding is not an exclusive club that only the early birds get into. Gross.

Sorry OP, I think you'll have to cut your guest list. Don't over invite expecting declines. That never works out well.

The wedding is 100% destination in the keys...all guests coming from Texas, Colorado, Oklahoma and out of country... i selected venue because it was the perfect venue for a wedding with the beach view but not outdoors and at the time I figured my family from out of country wouldn't come, exept now it seems they are making a vacation out of it...

Do not B list it's incredibly rude. That being said you don't have to send a std to all guests. Usually they are only sent to the guests you would be bummed couldn't make it.