6 months out, too late for an engagement party?

Don't throw yourself a party. Someone will throw it for you.

You don't host any of these parties yourself. Someone else should be stepping up volunteering to host an engagement party. At this point, I would say forget the engagement party and focus on your wedding shower. Someone in your wedding party or family usually hosts that.

When did you get engaged? It's in poor taste to ask anyone to throw you any kind of shower. And yes, I'd probs side eye you if you expected an engagement party and wedding shower within 6 months of your wedding date. It seems gift grabby.

Ummm, sorry but you shouldn't "expect" anything. If someone wants to throw one for you, fine. But you 1) do not throw yourself one and 2) certainly, CERTAINLY do NOT ask someone to throw you one. WTF Wednesday is in full effect.

Others throw parties for you. You don't ask them to. It's too close to your wedding now for an engagement party. Maybe someone will do a bridal shower but just focus on your wedding.

Why dont you throw a BBQ this weekend for both families to get together? You don't throw your own engagement party or bridal shower because that is saying you expect gifts but no one side eyes a good cookout.

FH's family is the type of "if you want something you need to ask for it" family. Everyone else who's been thrown an engagement party or wedding shower asked for it because they knew if they hadn't then nothing would happen. So when his twin asked they threw them an engagement party and a coed wedding shower and his wife's parents threw them an engagement party and coed wedding shower also. My parents had to fix up their house after the fire and don't have the time or money at the moment to throw a party of any type, but FH's mom, aunts and sister are party planners and caterers and are usually the ones to throw these. FSIL asked a few months back if we wanted a party and I said that would be wonderful, but she asked for my mom to buy favors and decorations etc. and my mom couldn't afford it financially or time wise and I asked why an engagement party had to be fancy and expensive and she said she wouldn't do it any other way.... she got busy with work and never brought it up again so I've stayed quiet as to not seem greedy. I just don't know if we can have some sort of gathering like everyone else did... regardless of what it's called.... before the wedding. Or should I just say oh well.

Like PP said you definitely can't throw your own shower. Someone will do it for you. If you just want a party but don't expect gifts, Mrstobe has a good point - just throw a bbq as a get together for your families and have fun.

I threw my MOH a wedding shower when she got married last summer, and it was like a bridal shower but the groom and his guests were there too. It was a lot of fun and I guess in lieu of an engagement party even though we said it was in lieu of a traditional bridal shower.

Yes. it is way way too late. get over it.

The engagement party ship has sailed, its also unnecessary and un needed. Don't ask people to throw you a shower. rude.

Formal engagement parties are silly anyways. Move on.

I wasn't thinking exactly of an engagement party... I think some of the girls who commented got what I was thinking of, just a laid back family gathering, no presents expected... just with a "Yay we're getting married!" type feel to it. I think it would be weird to have an actual engagement party seeing as we announced our engagement in July of last year and it's almost been a year!

Yes, it is too close to the wedding to have an engagement party.

I'm with O&S. Are you only here to hear that "yes darling you should do what you want, a year late engagement party is completely legit" Stop whining.

In my opinion it is too late for a "yay we're getting married" celebration. With only 6 months to go, let the wedding be the celebration. It would be more appropriate for someone to throw you a shower and/or bachelorette party in this timeframe (if someone offers to throw you one).

Well seeing as how I posted this under Etiquette and Advice I'd say I wasn't expecting a certain answer, hence asking for advice... and how to properly go about it in a polite and socially acceptable manner.... hence the etiquette part. And there's help from my side, they're paying for the wedding!

Yeah, again its to late. Have a memorial day picnic and tell everyone there. I cant stand people who feel the need to throw so many parties for themselves.

Proper Etiquette: Don't. There ya go.

I wouldn't throw one yourself. If someone wants to throw you one then that's fine but doing it yourself is weird

If someone wants to throw you an engagement party 6 months before your wedding, that's still not really okay lol. It's too late.