4 days until the wedding and i have had late Rsvps come in.....

Geeeeeeez, so rude! If your vendors & venue allow, I'd just add them. But a lot of vendors won't change final count after 14 days out.

We got married on June 8th and had 1 show up who was not invited and 2 people show that did not RSVP.

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This is how I would respond.

View Quoted Comment It is extremely irritating.. I did my part and it was just impossible to put the RSVP card in the provided envelope with our address and stamp!!!

View Quoted Comment They told me no.. so here I go with some bad news!!

View Quoted Comment Omfg!!! i would freak out.

View Quoted Comment They told me no.

View Quoted Comment I honestly said exactly this to them.. no response yet. I can understand but why even push it to this point? I wanted all of my RSVPs may 15 sent out all of my invitations march 31st.. but I am be nice and keeping my thoughts in my head!

View Quoted Comment 😅😂 FH said that's too sassy!!! Haha I rolled my eyes pretty hard when I got this RSVP today

I'm the odd one out I guess, id just call and change the count.
Life is busy, things happen...it wouldn't bother me. 🤷

View Quoted Comment We have family member doing the same thing. She has told us yes, no, and maybe like 10 times.. but we have had other people invite her to there wedding and she says yes but she never showed up for anything.. it's okay! Rant on. Haha.

I would absolutely tell them no simply because they didn't follow directions on your rsvps and didn't respond to you. It's typically contractual that your head count is due at this date. I would just tell them "Unfortunately no others can be added after the final head count which was due this date per our contract with our venue." I wouldn't go through the stress of figuring out if they could be added. Nor would I pay for people being stupid and/or lazy.

I'd say no and honestly I wouldn't even be polite about it. RSVP means there's something important happening you gotta do it or not go

I would inform them that the deadline for RSVP's has passed and the final numbers have already been turned in.

RSVP's are there for a reason, especially for weddings and it is not a new thing so they should have reached out way before now to let you know if there was a possibility they would be able to come. You followed up, they ignored.

Oh wow, people just don't understand the stress that the wedding causes as a whole... because doing this is terribly inconsiderate. I'm so sorry it's happening to you. I think if you TRULY want them there, then try to make a way possible. However, I feel if your guests truly wanted to be there they would have gotten back to you already, which would lead me to tell them, "I'm sorry our final numbers have been turned in and we can't make this last minute adjustment." Good luck!

Here's a question...

Would you be bummed if these people weren't in attendance? If so, I would ask your caterer if you can add on a few more. However, if it won't be an issue, I would tell them that they should have followed instructions haha.

Most venues can adjust the numbers until the day before. Also, I was also told by our venue that they normally make extras "just in case". So I would contact the venue and ask them if you can still add more guests.

First I would call the caterer and see if they can handle it. I would also look at the seating chart and see where they could be squeezed in - at this point. If they can be accommodated then weigh your options on whether or not you want to knowing the full details first. However, I think it would be fair to also reach out to them and let them know that the RSVP was received far too late for the caterer and your event location to make changes - especially if any changes in numbers accrue excessive charges from your caterer for you. I know with mine if I have a difference of +/- 10 after the deadline (which for me is 3 weeks prior to wedding day) then I get nailed with fees atop of the cost of their meals and drinks. Not at all sorry for telling people no when it'll cost an extra $150/each for the extra mouths atop the normal fees for their being there.

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I 100% agree with this!! I would just kindly let them know that it is after the RSVP deadline and you would have loved for them to join you, but no longer are able to because of headcount.