38 days and i hate my Dress >_

I was in the same position. It's a long story but I didnt feel comfortable in my dress anymore and I get married Oct 4 this year. I went to David's Bridal this past weekend and tried on dresses and bought a new one! It will be a tight turnaround but theyll be able to get everything done in time.

For me, I had been stressing over the dress and well I am the bride so I should look and FEEL beautiful and I wasnt. So this was the best decision for me and I was under budget in other areas so I could make it work. So it can be done if you get a dress that can ship quickly or take a sample dress home possibly?

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea. I got my dress from David’s Bridal. I honestly ignored the dress even being there and cancelled my first alterations appointment because I didn’t like it that much. However now, it’s just so much worse.

The bad part is my mother paid for it and she LOVES this dress. That’s the part I’m struggling to get around. What about alterations? Are you still able to do that?

Yes I'll need alterations done since it needs to be hemmed. The latest my dress will come in I'll have about a week and a half for alterations so itll be a rush. Hopefully it comes in earlier than expected so theres a bit more time.

Your mom may love the dress but I'm sure she wants YOU to love the dress and be happy. Can you still wear it for the reception or somehow incorporate it? Or possibly pay her back for some of it if you're able if shes upset by it?

I just bought a new dress as well- from Bhldn- less than a week shipping and I’m so happy I did it!

View Quoted Comment At the moment, no. It’s either deal with this dress, which I’m sure will end up being miserable, or go find some cheap something or other. This was a 1300 dress, so it’s a huge issue.

If you truly hate it, see if you can find something else even if you have to think outside the box.

A lot of people here with dress regret have literally bought a new one. And some people here will look at things they can do to their dress to like it. What if you got a new one and wore the one your mom gave you for just a segment of the wedding? A lot of people have multiple outfits for their weddings.

My original dress from David's was only $200 and they do have a good amount of lower priced gowns that could be an option. Or a different store that isn't bridal necessarily? Or like a PP suggested, cancyou do anything to the dress to make you love it?

So originally when I realized I didn’t like it at all, I thought about alterations to like it. But. The way the bottom skirt rests, I can’t really reduce it without messing up its floral and sequin pattern. The upper back/shoulder region is SO loose, that it would take about 6 inches of extra fabric removed to fit correctly. I had debated adding sleeves, making it more shapely, but I am just not seeing the disability without ruining the general pattern of the dress. Which, I’m sure, would be just as costly.

Do you have a picture?

View Quoted Comment No, I don’t have any good ones. I only have ones taken the day I bought it.

Hi Amanda! I'm so sorry about your predicament. It sounds like your mom has the upper hand in the decision, from what you said. If you live in a big city, maybe you should check out the thrift stores or the consignment shops around town---(I found my gown at a local thrift store for a fraction of the cost of a new one---and it was in excellent shape!) I hope whatever you decide to do---you will find a dress that's just right for YOU! It's YOUR wedding and people should respect that---yep, even Momma! It's the only day in your life that's totally supposed to be about you & your Sweetheart! Good luck, my dear--and God bless you!

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Keep in mind, this is YOUR day. No one else's....Do whatever is best for YOU because you don't want to be miserable on your special day just to please others who should love you even if you decide to wear a dishrag to your wedding (although please try not to actually just wear a dishrag lol). You will be a beautiful bride no matter what you wear! Don't stress too much.

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Is it possible to sell it and use the money to buy a new one that you do like? I'm not really sure if you can return wedding dresses but if you can that would also be an option.

View Quoted Comment Have you started alterations? My friend had a similar situation a few years ago and since she didnt start alterations David's Bridal let her exchange the dress and get a different one. And this is your dress you need to love your dress. The end of the day your mom will be happy if you are happy and in the dress you want to be in.

I would talk to David's Bridal about exchanging it verses eating the cost.. if you haven't had any alterations done to it, they will more than likely give you a "store credit." Or perhaps a seamstress can alter it in a way that makes you happy? Personally, I would find something YOU love! It may upset your mom, but you don't want to dislike your photos and all the memories because of your dress. I had a similar situation with my FH's ring.. he liked it, we bought it and two weeks after having it in our possession I told him I didn't like it... I felt so bad, but he said he much rather me say something then to go the rest of our lives hating the ring on his hand that symbolized us being married! Sooo we started over.. and four trips back and forth between Zales and Kays, we finally found one we both love.. Moral of the story, it's your day! And if you aren't happy, it's ok to take the steps to be happy! Anything is possible with "rushed" shipping and alterations being expedited.

I'm so sorry you are in this position! I would definitely want to wear a dress I love. I've never had an issue with speaking my mind even to loved ones (it's caused many heated arguments between me and my mother but hey what can I say). This day is about YOU and your significant other. So don't listen to anyone else. Get a dress you love and either try to sell the dress or donate it!

Don't forget sample gowns as an option! You need to love your dress!

I'm really sorry that your in this situation. My mom also doesn't like one of the dresses I picked out. To me it's It's kind of like yeah mom I totally respect your opinion BUT this is MY DAY. This is literally the only day that everyone will be there to celebrate YOU! YOUR THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON ON THAT DAY! If you can, yes jump on Amazon and see or even JJshouse website; they have dresses too. My friend got all her bridesmaids dress from there, you submit you measurements and they send you a dress in your size! You shouldn't have to settle because your trying to please others. Good luck!

******UPDATE**********


So I listened to everyone, and I got the dress I ORIGINALLY wanted. I feel so amazing it in, and so beautiful. Thank you all so much for the support and advice! I had an amazing appointment with an amazing stylist, and they allowed me to EXCHANGE the dress! Let’s just say, massive sigh of relief.

Plus, I went down two dress sizes so that’s a plus! 😂