3 day wedding??/!!

I'm confused what a 3 day wedding is? I'm thinking of doing a DW so it will end up being a weekend thing but only one day will be wedding related. The rest will be food drinks and fun - casual!

I know in some cultures 2 or 3 day weddings are common, but this doesn't sound like one of those situations. Please don't do this.

Sounds like a stressful event to organize and keep everyone entertained for all this time. I'd say this is only a good idea if it is a cultural tradition. You could plan some additional activities with OOT town guests who are staying a couple days?

We are kinda having a 4 day wedding during 4th of July weekend . So far most of our guest are taking advantage of the mini-vacation where our wedding is being held. But guest aren't required to participate in the other events/days , it's just optional if they want to join in.

Here is our timeline :

Friday : Check In - Welcome/Rehearsal Dinner

Saturday - Wedding/ Reception

Sunday - Relax day ( Guest are free to do what they please)

Monday - 4th of July BBQ

Tell the boyfriend to be a fiance first and then plan a wedding.

Then explain to him that a marriage is heavily based on compromise and respect of each other's feelings, wants and needs.

@skye that's pretty much what my brother did. It wasn't considered a three/ four day wedding. Mostly family and friends that we hadn't seen in years taking time to visit. I wonder if that's what the OP boyfriend wants.

I've heard of a three day wedding (well it was more like a 2 1/2 day wedding.) On the first day the families get together drink, sing mariachis, make toasts dance, the second day is the actual ceremony at the church, with reception after and on the third day in the morning/ early afternoon the family gets together again have lunch and then everyone goes home. The family that I know who had this type of wedding all lived far away from each other so they wanted to spend a lot of time together and they loved to drink, dance and have a grand old time. What I noticed however about this wedding was that guests were told about the 3 days of celebration but we're not required to go to all three days, that was mainly for family.

@mahalobeauty : I'm sure it might be . Then on a side note mine is considered a destination wedding since both sides have to travel at least 1.5 hours. If it's local that could be weird if it's not a cultural thing.

We had quite a lot of out of town guests and we live in a vacation spot so a lot of people chose to come in a few days before the wedding and we ended up having a larger-than-usual rehearsal dinner that morphed into a welcome dinner for out of towners, which was fine (and obviously totally optional).

We also ended up seeing some of our friends/family who came into town before the wedding early, too, but a lot of them still did their own thing/explored the area themselves, which was great. They took advantage of it being a long weekend/vacation.

There was a Sunday brunch for anyone who felt like coming. It was a one-day wedding on Saturday but it had a wedding weekend vibe for us and anyone who was interested in hanging out beyond just the wedding, and I loved it, but I couldn't imagine obligating anyone who RSVP'd to anything other than the one wedding evening itself.

There is a big difference between a 3 day wedding, and 3 days of optional wedding activities. Rehearsal dinner Friday, wedding Saturday, brunch Sunday is actually fairly common- but the wedding itself is still only 1 day.

Go for it. It's very common in other cultures to hold multi day events and sometimes not in consecutive days. It will be expensive but if you have the budget do what you like. Day 1, welcome dinner, speeches and reflections, day 2 intimate ceremony with immediate family members (you can do lots of smaller ceremonies,l that involve the family, I candle or sand ceremony. Day 3 reception dance party with bouquet /garter toss, sideshow or video love story, drinks, etc.

Is he polish? this is very much a polish thing. thankfully, FH was not at all interested in continuing that tradition, lol.

One day..not three. That's expensive for you and guests.

I'm doing a wedding weekend where everyone is invited to the welcome party on Friday and a sendoff bbq on Sunday. But my FILs are paying for and planning the welcome party and my parents are doing the same for the sendoff. So, it isn't adding much stress to my overall planning or budget, and I enjoy planning anyway so I'm not bothered when they come to me for an opinion. Also, I wanted to have a big wedding. Eloping never seemed really appealing for me personally.

Your situation sounds different from mine. First, it sounds like you don't want to have a big wedding to begin with. I don't think you should ignore that instinct. Planning a wedding is a lot of work, it can be fun if you want to do it and like planning, but it can also be torture if you don't like those things. Second, I have help with the other celebrations. I'm only really responsible for planning one day, and my FH is helping me a lot with that. It would be very frustrating if he wasn't helping. From your post, it sounds like your FH and his family want the extra days of celebration, but they don't want to help plan. Is that true?

Maybe hold extra events to continue the celebration for your family and those who choose to, but I would have the whole actual wedding (ceremony/reception) on one day!

That's a custom for Indian and south Asian weddings, unless yours is, there's no reason for it.

That sounds ridiculous!