3 day wedding??/!!

Don't do this to all your guests. You could have wedding related events take up a weekend for out of town people (I.e. have a large rehearsal dinner with a lot of people). The ceremony and reception should only take up one day though.

I think that's kind of what he is thinking HOLLY but not at a camp i was thinking since its so long we could fly everyone to Las Vegas or Miami.. but his not sure about it..

Maybe just have family come early and have some binding activities a day or 2 before?

I think a 3 days WEDDING is a bit much, but a 3 day CELEBRATION is a little more acceptable (& basically built in.) Day 1, rehearsal day. Out of town guests are usually included in the festivities. Day 2, wedding day. Obviously they are included. Day 3, Sunday brunch or Sunday afternoon BBQ- something low key to keep the celebration going & to make sure the out of town guests feel appreciated. Maybe your fiancee is just wording it wrong or doesn't realize out of town guests are usually included in more than the wedding day itself. Good luck!

I actually heard of "wedding weekends" where there are optional activities the night before and the morning after. So like a BBQ on Friday, the wedding on Saturday and catered brunch on Sunday. This is usually meant to entertain guests that are traveling in or people that are having their wedding at say a summer camp and they are making a weekend of it. To me it sounds like adding extra expense and stressful planning to what is already a pretty expensive and stressful event.

Maybe if it's a destination wedding

I know I couldn't do a 3 day wedding but hey to each their own.

Maybe make it a little different maybe Friday have a pre wedding party (could even be your guys bachelor/bachelorette parties combined), then Saturday maybe have the wedding, and on Sunday brunch and goodbyes. That's just my opinion.

I know long weddings can be a cultural thing. Is it for him?

Boyfriend not fiancé...?

Nope, nope, nope! That's way too much.

What is a 3 day weekend? We are having a Friday wedding and hosting a brunch for any OOT guests who would like to attend Saturday but it's not part of the actual wedding.

Depends on what you are doing.

I plan destination adventure weddings. You come into town on Friday; choose what you want to do Friday afternoon and evening (hike? shop in charming Placerville? go play in the forest? do a pub crawl? listen to live music? enjoy some local melodrama?); camp overnight. Saturday, you might choose to whitewater river raft, with lunch on the river. Followed by showering and dressing for your wedding; the wedding by the river; camp-cooked meal; wedding cake and beverages; slide show of your river adventure; then out to local pubs for brew flights and music for the evening (if you aren't exhausted by this time); camp overnight; camp breakfast, a bit of hiking perhaps, then leaving to take flights out or start driving home.

That would be for a Placerville/Coloma California whitewater rafting adventure wedding - a three day weekend at Lake Tahoe is different (hiking? big-name concert? SUP? kayak trail?), or at the Redwoods or Mendocino is different, or maybe do some trail riding or hot air ballooning, caving, or jumping out of airplanes??? Or in the winter, snowboarding, skiing, snowshoeing, nordic skiing, or snowmobiling?

You just need to have an itinerary, and make sure guests know that they are NOT obligated to do everything with you besides the wedding and reception. AND be clear as to whether you are hosting an activity, or if they want to join you it is a an activity where everyone pays for themselves. Be clear about who pays for travel, lodging, and meals.

For the rafting, some couples bring a smaller number of people (10-20) and pay for their rafting/camping (includes some meals); some might pay a portion of the rafting/camping (to cover the wedding evening meal); and some might just invite their guest to join them for an adventure weekend, and treat them to a keg and cake after the wedding, but their guests are responsible for the cost of the rafting/camping. Some even rent a luxury tour bus from another area (like Los Angeles or the Bay Area) and everyone enjoys the journey to the wedding together!

Sounds like way too much togetherness to me. LoL but I'm only a hybrid introvert so the thought of hosting like this is more terrifying than the thought of attending something like this.

What do you do for 3 days? This seems crazy and ridiculous to me.

LOL what the heck is a 3 day wedding?! Like.. ACTUAL wedding for 3 days?? the bride in her gown for 3 days??? I understand events and festivities for OOT guests..but a whole 3 days of WEDDING?! Thats nuts!

I wouldn't start talking about wedding stuff until after you are engaged. Once you are engaged look at what the two of you want and not what he sees from other people's weddings. Then set a budget and guest list.

I'm confused what you mean by a three day wedding. Can you explain what he means.

I was once invited to an Indian wedding and traditionally those are three or more days of wedding events, but that's a widely known cultural tradition.

We are doing a dinner the night before the wedding just for bp, the wedding (with an after party) and then breakfast the next day. If this is what you mean by a three day wedding (RD, wedding, brunch), then that's fine. If you mean three days of actual planned activities, then that's too much.

I'm with @Bethany on this...I think a weekend celebration for a wedding is doable especially when you have guests traveling from far away.

My family is flying mostly from Florida to Massachusetts, then EVERYONE going to the wedding has to drive at least two hours to Cape Cod on the busiest weekend of the year for the Cape. Hotels require 2-3 night stays and vacation rentals require 3-7 night stays.

Not only did I WANT that extra time to spend with my family but I wanted to show my appreciation for them coming. So all wedding guests are invited to a welcome party two days before and a breakfast the day after but they are both OPTIONAL and guests can RSVP to each event. So far, the out of town guests are attending both get togethers and the locals are going to just the ceremony/reception or one or the other events.

We're getting married on Sunday of Labor Day weekend. We have planned some fun stuff to do all weekend, for any guests that might come in from out of town. (Beach trip, dinners out, etc.) BUT the actual wedding will be about 4 hours long.

That's pretty common in traditional Indian weddings where you have an event each day but it's not mandatory for everyone to attend each event. You're not 'doing' anything to your guests by inviting them. They can come for one day and still be fine. As a guest it's actually a lot of fun but I wouldn't do it as a host. None of the Indian weddings I attended were paid for by the couple themselves and everyone of them had a wedding planner to organize everything.

Unless you have the funds to pay for each event + can hire a planner, I personally would stick to one day. That's still a compromise between city hall and a multiday celebration.