3 cousins who are sisters but I only want to invite 2 of them

I think you have to invite the 3rd one and just hope she doesn't show. I have a few like that on my list as well (one reason I'm not sending STDs out to my side LOL)

I agree with Paris. Even though she may have hurt you it's still rude not to invite her. My FH had a cousin who invited 1 aunt but not the other and there was sooo much drama after that. Just suck it up and hope she doesn't come. And if she does say a polite hello and thank you and leave it at that.

I agree with Paris too. Most likely it's going to be offensive if you invite everyone in her family but her. If she ends up coming, you don't have to talk to her all night. You'll probably say hello and then go on mingling with all your other guests.

If she doesn't like you, she wouldn't come, right? If your aunt/other family had your back on this, I'd encourage you not to invite her, but by the sounds of it, not inviting her sounds like you'll be creating more drama :/.

Are you close with your Aunt? If so, can you call her up and talk with her openly about it? If not, you gotta invite her!

I have a cousin who I DESPISE!!!!!!!!! But I have to invite her. Odds are your third cousin wont show up. I wish that would be the case for mine. You have to invite her.

I agree with just inviting her anyway.

I'm going with the consensus, you either invite all or none. Three of my cousins did not make the list because only one has made some effort to talk to me over the last 15 years.

Normally I say it's your wedding, do what you want BUT I'm gonna agree ith everyone else, you kinda have to invite her- she most likely won't come

Hmm, I would call your aunt and tell her you will invite your cousin in person, if she wants to meet up before the wedding. But if your cousin isn't interested in making time to hangout pre-wedding then she wont be given an invite. I think that's fair, unoffencive and leaves the ball in her court.

I'm not inviting some of my cousins but am inviting their sibling and mom etc. It's because I don't talk to them For us it's ok, no ones feelings are hurt these cousins are just never involved in any family activities so we don't have to have them invited to a wedding. So I think every family is different.

^^^ us too LuckyMe

My FH is inviting 2 of his cousins but not their mother. but he is inviting the grandmother. He does not like his aunt at all. I kind of feel weird about it, but his cousins are part of our life, the aunt is not. We have nothing to do with her. She hasn't been a part of his life since his mom (her sister) died.

I seem to be in disagreement with most people, but I say don't invite her. It will likely be drama if she comes or drama if she doesn't, so I would do what makes me happy and not have her at my wedding. FH has an uncle that basically stabbed him in the back and is now dating FHs ex.... all of his other aunts and uncles are invited an this one certainly is not. FSIL tried to say that we MUST invite him and we put our foot down. Not happening. If you don't love and support me, you will not be a part of my day. I refuse to have to see anyone who might make me feel uncomfortable at my wedding.

"My cousin has done alot of hurtful things to me, I told my aunt im willing to sit down with my cousin and talk things out and she refused."

I doubt she'll even expect an invitation. I would not send one. And when questioned about it, repeat the above sentence.

I actually commented on a similar situation in a different post, but I have something like this too: I love one cousin and would love to have her at my wedding. Her sister used the bully me and we haven't spoken in years (not out of anger, our paths just don't cross anymore). I'm inviting both because if the problematic cousin does come, I really won't have that much interaction with her. I'm guessing we'll spend about five minutes together, maybe. I can handle five minutes with her. That's my situation. In your situation, there's a good case to be made for not inviting her. I think she probably wouldn't go even if you invited her, but you can never be sure. I say if you can handle dealing with her on your day, go ahead and invite her. But if you think something bad may come of it, don't. If your aunt is upset about that, explain your reasons to her. She may see your side or she may refuse to come, in either case you have to do what's right for you.

I dont think you have to invite her - screw her! Weddings ALWAYS make ripples and I am not going to suggest that you invite someone who has been awful to you in your life. Don't invite her and if your aunt doesnt want to come because of that, so be it.

Man hell no!! you don't have to invite her. she treated you like dirt right? yeah no.

but if you'd like then do what mrs. smith says and invite her in person and see how that works out bc at least you guys can discuss some things beforehad. i'm not inviting anybody i don't like or get along with to my wedding besides my mom's husband *rolls eyes*