3 Accepts with pleasure for a 2 person invite. Sticky situation.

How old is the son?

How old is the son?

That is hard. But if him being there will make you uncomfortable, I would call and tell her that you are so excited to see her and her husband can come, but you don't have a seat for her son.

"I'm sorry, we've had to make some difficult decisions about who we can accommodate at the reception. We are very much looking forward to celebrating with you and your husband, since it is an adult evening. We'll understand if you will not be able to attend."

The End.

Just shoot her an e-mail or something casually pointing out, "Hey, I just got your RSVP in the mail and I'm really excited that you can make it to the wedding! However, I noticed that you RSVPed for 3 and I just wanted to let you know that due to budget constraints, we are only able to accommodate you and your husband. Hope you'll still be able to celebrate with us!"

If she responds making a stink about it, draw your mom in for support dealing with her friend, but hopefully her response will be a "whoops, my bad!" sorta thing.

Super sticky situation.

I think you've just got to talk to her about it and let her know that you are excited to see her and her hubby at the wedding and that they deserve to have a great night out without the son.

It might make you uncomfortable to talk about it with her before hand but it's going to make you super uncomfortable if she brings the son to your special day and he behaves like you explained above.

He is 23. What should I say if she wants to bring her son instead of her husband?

Celia's response is on point.

IMO, It's your wedding and you should never have to feel uncomfortable.

Did you not invite the son because he has a crush on you? Or do you really not have space for him. They probably should've declined the invite if the son cannot be by himself due to his disability.

I would firmly explain that the invite was intended for those addressed on the envelope. Plain and simple, you invited her and her husband. If she argues or says something about bringing her son, I'd say you are only inviting people you are closest to for financial and stress reasons, or say the invitations were written to her and her husband so she should be respectful of your decisions as it is your wedding day. If she disagrees, she is welcome not to show. Alternately, how close are you to her husband? Is there any way you can speak with him to get him to hear your side and explain to his wife what's going on? Or maybe let him know you only invited him and his wife, could he please stress this to his wife? I really hope whatever route you take helps, and I wish you the very best luck! This situation is wretched and I think you have every right to stand up and explain this is between you and her, and in the worst case, your opinion overrides your mother's. If you have to throw yourself under the bus so their relationship is saved, that decision is yours to make. Good luck!

Parents with kids (or adult children) with disabilities often are not comfortable leaving them... In hindsight you probably should've not invited any of them. I'd let him come; he won't be able to follow you around as it will be crowded and you'll be busy. I think of you exclude him they may feel as if it's because of his disabilities. Tough situation.

@jamgirl- both actually. But more that I'm uncomfortable. My mom is actually uncomfortable with how he is around me as well, but she could never say that to her friend.

I don't know why but I imagine some 16 year old boy following you around trying to sniff your hair. I think Celia's response is on point too.

The only problem is that he is an adult. I wish I could use Celia's response, ha!

Celia hit the nail on the head! The message is clear, polite, warm and to the point. I don't think she'll be able to mix up what you're saying and it's still a nice way to say it.

She can't use Celia's because their son is an adult

Ok, are his parents aware of his fixation & your discomfort? Because they should talk to him about it. You should also discuss with them about how you feel & that the invite was only for them. They will probably not come if he can't

@jamgirl- they are very aware and they think it is adorable. They don't know I'm uncomfortable, but I've always tried to be nice because it's my mom's friend. I have been his main "crush" for about 8 years.

This is a very sticky situation... My advice doesn't differ too much from the other ladies who have already commented. I think it's best to explain that the invite is only for her and her husband. You could always try and tell her honestly that you are not comfortable with the way he is with you. I know it's a delicate subject. and you do not want to upset her or her family but I am sure if you approach it as kindly as you did on here there shouldn't be any hurt feelings.

You can still use it, "we've carefully picked our guest list....."