$200 bachelorette party with 2 days to RSVP... Is that normal?

Nothing about it it normal. Just say no.

No way...I would decline and let her know it was about the last minute timing.

No. Its rude to plan something that extravagant and close without asking.

I think that's a bit odd. I don't know what average bachelorette parties cost, but $200 doesn't seem too bad for two nights hotel and wine tasting. I think if you're going to ask people to contribute though, you need to have a lot more notice and time to rsvp. Like you said, some people need to book time off work, save up, etc.

Yeah no. Not a fan of 3 day bachelorette parties though now that it takes me two full days to recover from a hangover!

How good of a friend? Maybe you can meet for a drink one night but I'd decline the rest.

Aw, I feel sorry for the bride. Her MOH is failing her. Maybe if everyone tells the MOH no, she'll have to rethink and plan something else that people will actually be able to attend.

I'd ask her why she needs to know right away and that it just isn't a reasonable request when you'll need to take off of work and what not. A room for 2 nights (depending on the amount of people there will be and assuming all of you will be splitting the cost of the bride) $200 isn't bad. FH is having to fly to a completely different state no one is in for his brothers bachelor party. He's looking at $2,000 for 2 nights! Which is better than the grooms first bachelor party location request of England. But yea... The urgency is messed up. That's just not right...

I would decline that invite due to short notice

I'd say that's pretty unreasonable. By the lack of responses by other people invited, I'd guess that other people feel the same.

I think the price is reasonable honestly- were you expecting to stay in a hotel? It's not like she needs the money by 5 pm tomorrow, hopefully you had some idea that this was going to be the bachelorette party?

I'd decline no as well. Wow, 3 days to RSVP and a week to RSVP for a bridal shower. Her MOH is worse than me at procrastination. Or just rude.

I think $200 seems reasonable for a long weekend BUTTTTTTTTT giving you till 5 pm to respond when you need to take a day off work and plan everything seems totally unreasonable. it's how the MOH is going about it that seems to be the problem. The only down side to saying no is that if all of the other BM's being invited say no also, then your friend who is getting married may end up with no one at the bach party.

I just feel bad for the bride honestly. Ultimately if people don't go, it doesn't hurt the MOH, it hurts the bride. The email was sent to 14 girls, and the fact that she sent a follow-up email today reminding us we had until 5 PM and that no one has responded to her tells me (at least in my mind) that others feel the same way.

I know the area that we are going to be at, since I have made day trips there, and I am having trouble understanding with the $200 will cover. The wine tastings are about $10 per vineyard (if that) and 2 nights hotel stay would maybe cost $200 a night there. But regardless of this, I think it is the time limit to respond that bothers me. She did this for the bridal shower too- I got my invite on a Monday and had to RSVP by that Saturday and the shower was 4 hours away.

I emailed her back and told her that unfortunately I could not make a 100% commitment by today at 5 PM and left it at that. But I still feel bad for the bride.

ETA:E=MC- No. I talk to the bride almost every day. I had zero clue this was the plan. And the price is fine ultimately I guess, but I feel silly taking a day off work and paying to stay in a hotel 30 minutes away from my house.

Yes that's crazy... & very inconsiderate. I'd just politely decline.

While the price is reasonable, something like this should have been planned ahead of time so everyone can make their necessary arrangements. Because of her poor planning, your friend probably isn't going to have much of a bachelorette party.

If I had the money and we were close friends I would go for it. If not, decline.

Inconsiderate and rude!! Who the hell does she think she is??

Totally unreasonable for her to want you to RSVP that quickly. I can understand the bill for the long weekend, however, it may be your best bet to instead decline the stay and drive back and forth to the locations/events as they happen. Less "effect", but it may also show the event planner as well as other participants how absolutely ridiculous it seems to spend so much money on an event where travel is clearly not a factor. I would be pretty annoyed about that much cash being required just to hang out in the next town over, as well. It cost me about $200 to attend my MOH's Party, but that was us travelling 9 hours to another city for a night, staying in an upscale hotel.

I'm guessing you guys would be staying in some sort of suite as opposed to a regular hotel room, so that could explain why the hotel cost is more than you would expect.

I was invited to a bachlorette party that was going to cost $600 for a two night stay, plus close to $300 in travel fees. Definitely didn't go to that one.

Nope nope nope