1 Year and 10 month engagement?

We had over a year (engaged in January of 2015, set a date of May 21, 2016) and I won't lie, it crawled by until we hit the year mark. I don't think there is anything to feel guilty about! We are now 279 days out and even though that still feels long, I know with how busy this upcoming year is for both of us it will fly by. I think longer can be great for budgeting though as well. We don't have a big budget, so it has been good to be able to do some small things as I go. I know brides warn about changing your mind on things, but I've only been doing things I'm certain of - for instance, collecting vases and turning them into mercury glass etc. - small DIY projects I know I definitely want. I haven't started things I'm not totally sure of because I might change my mind.

Congrats on your engagement! Don't feel discouraged. The time will fly by and it will really give you more time to plan. Take this time to get all your ducks in a row and enjoy the planning process.

We are having a one year and five month engagement. I would say don't feel guilty about planning in advance. I just think you have to be careful about what planning you do. If you haven't booked your venue, DJ, etc, you can definitely start researching and booking the big vendors. You technically don't have a date until you book your venue anyway. Other things you can do now are collecting ideas of things you want to do. I wouldn't start buying anything or doing DIYs until you are less than a year out though as you will change your mind.

ETA: I agree with my date twin Mary that it crawled until we hit the one year mark. Now it's starting to fly.

We engaged in November and our wedding is next June which will be about a 19 month engagement. It feels like forever. I know several people who got engaged the same time as me and are already married or will be this fall. I'm jealous but it was the right time for us as we needed that time to save. We booked everything right away and now I'm sort of at a lull, but... We're already 10 months away! It seems long but it'll go by fairly quickly. Just enjoy your engagement for now, start looking at venues and pretty wedding things and get ideas. My suggestion is not to book or buy anything too early, I did and there are already things I would've done differently but its too late

We have an 18 month engagement and it's JUST barely starting to fly by. The first year I didn't even feel like I was engaged because nothing really happened. To feel less bored I just did a ton of research and stalked the WW forums for ideas. I suggest you do the same and maybe start narrowing down venues so you can book one in the next couple of months.

The good thing about that is that you have plenty of time to plan!

DH and I were engaged for 2 1/2 years because we were both still in college when he proposed. We knew we wanted to get married and it felt so good to have that recognition from our families as well, but we didn't even set a date until about 9 months before our wedding because we weren't sure what state we were going to be living in or anything else. Once DH had completed his first year of grad school and I graduated from college, we moved in together, I found a FT job and got settled at work and then we started planning. I guess I wasn't really counting time until we started planning, and by then it was only 9 months, so it went fast. Another big thing was that it wasn't just the wedding--the other stuff that we were doing was necessary for our life together, so it didn't feel like we were waiting for the next step--moving in together was a big step, doing all the individual things that we needed to do to establish careers were next steps too.

We got engaged May 2013 and getting married this October. So 2 years 5 months from time engaged til wedding. It dragged until 1 year. Now it's flying. Our venue didn't have 2015 prices, so we paid 2014 prices. You can get discounts for booking early.

My engagement will be just over two years. It has flown by! 42 days to go

Our engagement is 16 months - and let me tell you, it is FLYING by like crazy. Why are you feeling guilty doing planning in advance? That will only make it easier for you down the road, do what you can now, girl! and Congrats!

We got engaged 11/30/13 and originally planned on getting married 6/20/15. We had some family drama and decided to pay for it ourselves, plus I had a severe foot injury, so we needed to push it back. It felt like a while last summer, but the last 6 months have flown by. Now, I'm less than 3 months away! It might go slow until the year mark, but then it flys.

Our engagement was the same amount of time. The first year crawled, and I got most of the big stuff out of the way. The last ten months flew by. I felt like I had no time for anything. We also moved states twice in that time so I had a lot of other crap going as well, but by the time my wedding rolled around, I was wishing for more time.

My biggest tip is to wait until the last line of dresses have come out before your wedding before you go shopping, while giving yourself time for alterations. For example, I got married this spring and waited until the fall line came out last year before finally settling on one. Save yourself the potential dress regret and wait.

We got engaged back in November 2014 and our date is June 2017 and I already feel like it's flying. I have my DJ, venue, officiant ( she's like a step mom to me), photographer, hair dresser, and bridal party chosen. So don't feel weird at all, it will def make life easier if you plan sooner. Then you can take your time trying to make different center pieces as the time gets closer

We had a 21 month engagement and it seemed like time crawled. I would be on WW and feel discouraged/envious of the brides that were getting married a lot sooner than I was. In addition I lost my job 6 months after we got engaged so I was trying to plan a wedding while looking for a job (I am still looking for work). But now I have been married almost 9 months (DH and I just discussed what we wanted to do for our anniversary yesterday) and I can say that I am glad we had a long engagement. I used the time to DIY a lot of things that I would have ended up spending money on if I had a shorter engagement (bouquets, boutonnieres and corsages come to mind). You shouldn't feel guilty planning early, I suggest getting as much done whenever you can. You never know when something unexpected may come up and if you have things already done that will be less stress for you later. For my DIY items, I got a couple of storage bins from Wal-Mart so I could keep them safe and out of the way. Honestly, you will find that the time goes quicker than you thought it would.

Our engagement is over three years. I was discouraged too because everyone I know is getting engaged after us and married before us but it will be our turn before long! I have everything booked except for cake and the little things like hair and MUA and stuff. All of my vendors think its great my engagement is so long. I am also enjoying the time to enjoy the engaged time and our last year of school.

We're getting married not long after yourselves, however we've been engaged since April 2012 so definitely understand the feeling that time is dragging a bit.

Time definitely feels like it's dragging less, the closer we get to the day and being so far out has meant we've had our pick of vendors. As well as being able to take our time with things like DIYs and honing our vision for the day. It also means lots of opportunities for deals and money saving as you can wait for sales and have the luxury of time to get vouchers etc.

(So far we have the venue, our general vision for the day aka plenty of pinteresting and some details like rings chosen. We're meeting with a family friend for the cake next May, same with the photographer as he doesn't like to take bookings too far in advance. We're also working our way through a very short list of celebrants since we recently opted for a humanist ceremony over registrar)

We got engaged December 2014 and will be married September 2016. Time has been flying by so far. I'd suggest using the time before you hit the 1 yr mark to get big things out of the way (venue, photographer, videographer, etc.). Look on the bright side. You have extra time to save and plan the wedding of your dreams!

I feel the same way. We got engaged the beginning of January and are getting married October of 16. I was just talking to my MOH earlier about how slow it's going.

We will have been engaged 2 years and three months by the time we marry. Honestly I'm glad we have so much extra time since I'm not pressured and freaking out about everything we have to do. It's nice to have my pick of vendors as well. I'd say to get your vendors now and worry about everything else a bit later. No I don't feel bad or worried about a long engagement. We're getting married on our dating anniversary and I'd rather have that date (and have to wait) then to have any other date and not have to.

Engaged December 21, 2012!

We bought a house literally the weekend before we left for our 'trip'. No wonder FH was so stressed out, haha.

If it helps, my wedding is on October 10, 2015 and I bought my dress in 2013 ;-) The time goes by faster than you think! The extra time is -amazing-. Because you get to see the big picture so much longer, and have time to tweak things and really put your own touch into everything.

Plus, putting deposits down early on certain venues has it's perks if you're doing it way in advance.

Ours engagement was pretty much the same! November 2013 and our wedding is coming up this September. In 2014 I didn't do any wedding related stuff except attend a Bridal show in January so I didn't think about wedding stuff much so the year didn't feel like time was passing slowly. In August of 2014 I booked my venue and bought some linens then did nothing until January of this year. I think it helped just not doing anything for the first year lol. As exciting as it is, it would have felt like a waiting game. But look out, this year is flying by! I had everything done early in the year so i'm not scrambling too much now but the countdown is just zipping by like nothing. I don't wish we had a shorter engagement, it was fun being engaged. Just ride out the first year or so and enjoy it