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Dedicated March 2016

1 week until the wedding and our church ceremony needs to be cancelled

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Mrs.Magallan2016, on February 28, 2016 at 7:43 AM

So we are getting married at my FH's church. We went to the pre-martial counseling and the pastor told us that I just needed to become a member of the church in order for us to get married. I agreed and thought that we were ready to go. Just last Saturday he told us that I need to get baptized other wise we can't get married there. The deal is that I have already been baptized in my church, by my father, who is the pastor. So my baptism is so special to me because it's a special moment I shared with my dad. Now, my dad has said that I cannot get baptized again because it goes against our beliefs. He wants he to move the ceremony over to my church but my MIL and FIL have said they will not come if we move the ceremony my church. My dad will not go to FH's church if they force me to get baptized. I want both parents to be there but I can't find a solution to this. I just want to walk down the church aisle with my dad. And I want my in laws to be there for FH. Both sides are very stubborn

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Devoted October 2016
FutureMrsJ · on February 29, 2016 at 2:11 PM
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I'm pagan, so is my FH and his family and my side are Buddhists so I forgive me if my two cents doesn't help, but have you considered sitting them down together? Tell them why this is hard on you and maybe they can help you with a compromise. I'm not sure how church works or becoming apart of one but if it isnt hard maybe you can find a neutral ground to do this on?
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Barbara · on February 29, 2016 at 2:36 PM
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I'm sorry your going through this. I would think any religious figure head no matter what denomination would sit down with all parties and compromise. This day is about you and your FH. I'm also going through personal family drama as well in regards of my parents may not attend my wedding because they don't like my FH. At the end of the day that is your day! Find someone who can accommodate you and your FH.
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Super August 2016
LeahKtoL · on February 29, 2016 at 2:46 PM
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This sounds insane. op, I'm so sorry this is happening a week before your wedding. I don't have any useful advice. maybe take @celia up on the offer of using religious wording etc and being married by a jop? would your religion recognize a civil ceremony? all in all, I'm just really sorry about the crappy situation. ((hugs))
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