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I am not sure that I really understand or agree with the elopement = no gift rule of thumb. Isn't the gifting about helping the couple start their lives together, not an exchange for a attending a party? It shouldn't matter if someone has a giant...

My FH and I did not quite want to elope so instead we are choosing to share our day with 40 of our absolute closest relatives and friends, which basically comes down to parents, step parents, siblings, grandparents, and a couple friends. This means...