Intimate ceremony - is sending wedding announcements tacky?

If people's feelings are already hurt, I personally wouldn't send something. It would come off as asking for a gift to me, and to your family, who are already upset, it might seem like you are rubbing salt in the wound.

Just skip it.

I definitely wouldn’t send those. I would understand not being invited to someone’s wedding if it’s very small. I would be a little upset to not have been included, but I’d understand. But if I wasn’t invited to someone’s wedding AND got a card reminding me that they got married and I wasn’t invited, i would definitely feel like it was rubbing salt in the wound

Agree on skipping the announcements. Maybe you can include something about the wedding on your holiday cards this year, if you send them. Then you're "announcing" it, if there are extended friends and family who may not yet know, but it doesn't risk the "gift grabby" connotation of a stand alone announcement...especially to people who already know and felt excluded.

I would skip sending out announcements as I think it does look like a gift grab..... I'm guessing most people probably know via word of mouth, social media, etc.

When is your wedding? Personally, I would skip it, but then maybe send a Holiday card with your family update (if you do that sort of thing) to talk about your intimate wedding ceremony.

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The wedding is in June. I do typically send Christmas cards out, but not to everyone that would typically be on an invite list of 100+

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Didn't think about it as pouring salt in the wound... good thought

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Good thought to include something with our holiday cards. I do typically send out Christmas cards to quite a few people and usually write a little message to everyone. Can maybe make it more personalized.

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I would say that if you wouldn't send out a Christmas card to them, they probably don't need a specific announcement that you got married

Congrats and good luck!

I think that some sort of acknowledgment in your hoilday card would suffice, without sounding "gift grabby"

Agree with PP. I'd skip it. I think the norm these days would be to post a few pics on social media. And even with that it sounds like you may have to prepare for a few salty comments.

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I was going to say the Christmas card was a great idea til I scrolled and saw that all of those people wouldn't even usually be included on a Christmas card list.

If someone isn't deemed important enough for even a Christmas card that gets printed in bulk then why would you send them a wedding announcement?

I think that seems like you're asking for gifts/money

We are doing the same thing you are doing, with the same family repercussions. I wouldn't consider what we are doing eloping, so I wouldn't send out an announcement. I would consider it a small wedding, so sending out those announcements would yeah, maybe be salt in the wound. We did opt for a larger party about a month after our wedding. We will not be asking for gifts, it will be a very casual potluck and we are asking guests to bring a side and just come celebrate with us.